Parking - asked to move by neighbour for sleeping children

(155 Posts)
thelionsleeps Thu 18-Aug-16 23:15:21

We have a house with parking for 4 cars but all cars have to move for each other as the driveway is in one line.

We have 2 cars and I would say 99% of the time we park both our cars on the driveway but very rarely will need to park one on the road (public parking) when we know we need to get the other car out early in the morning or if we have people visiting but need to use one of our cars.

Tomorrow we go away and my husband wanted to get petrol later tonight for his car so moved my car outside our neighbours so he could get his car out after our children are asleep. Lots of public parking outside on the road although past 7ish you may need to park further up the road or round the corner. There was a knock on the door from a different neighbour about 8.30 asking us to move our car as he had just arrived home and his 2 children were asleep (5 & 1) and he wanted the space - he has no off road parking.

It was in the middle of us putting our 3 young children down for the night (including 2 under 1) but as we were running late tonight we were only just about to get in the bath. We did move the car but it seemed a bit cheeky to me. I know I wouldn't have asked if I had arrived home and was in the same position and would have just woken the children up (as annoying as that would be). I don't want them to think we will do this every time they need the space or were we just being neighbourly? Aibu to think we won't move again if asked?

Scorbus Thu 18-Aug-16 23:16:58

You really are overthinking this. You did a nice thing, I doubt it'll be expected.

CookieDoughKid Thu 18-Aug-16 23:19:53

So he has no dedicated off road parking but you have and you don't want to use it? hmm

CookieDoughKid Thu 18-Aug-16 23:20:39

If he doesn't park there all the time and you don't park there all the time then you really don't have a problem.

DontMindMe1 Thu 18-Aug-16 23:20:52

you've got off road parking for FOUR cars.....and rather than inconvenience yourselves by having to move one of your own cars in the morning, you go out of your way to inconvenience a neighbour who NO off road parking?

and you think they were being unreasonable?!! shock

PassTheCremeEggs Thu 18-Aug-16 23:24:51

What was he going to do - leave the kids asleep in the car?! I may be missing point of thread but surely her have to wake them up by getting them out regardless of where parked?

But YABU being annoyed moving your car from road when you have four spaces off road - you could have swapped the order of cars in your drive so husband could go out later on.

eightbluebirds Thu 18-Aug-16 23:25:32

Legally of course what you did was fine, obviously you can park on a public road. But don't think they wbu to ask you to move and if I was them be a bit hmm tbh.

FastWindow Thu 18-Aug-16 23:28:58

Ive gotten really good at carrying a sleeping child from car to bed. But it's a fine line distancewise: im with the neighbour, sorry. I assume he asked nicely and everything was polite and civil?

Poppiesway Thu 18-Aug-16 23:29:23

Why didn't you just park your car on first and then your husbands car on second / behind yours if your dh had to take it out for fuel?
AYBU?? Erm yes!!

missingmumxox Thu 18-Aug-16 23:33:03

we have a similar set up to you, we just swap the cars round whoever needs out first makes sure the car they need is last in, no need for the road.
normal nice people would not hesitate in the situation of sleeping children to move, especially when you have a drive way to park in.
it's hardly likely to be a regular occurrence as you have a drive so normally park there and he won't always come home with sleeping children.
Lastly, where have you told your insurance company the car will be parked over night when at home, my guess is your driveway.

AgentPineapple Thu 18-Aug-16 23:35:43

YABU use your driveway and move the cars as needed. You have no idea how much this gets on the wick of people who don't have a driveway. My last house we never had a drive and could never get parked because of neighbours with driveways who parked on the street, had to carry my kids/shopping sometimes more that a street away from where I lived. Now I have a drive way and I NEVER park out on the street.

minipie Thu 18-Aug-16 23:37:40

Hmm. I can see neighbour's point, he can't park near his house with 2 sleeping kids to transfer, and you've got off road parking but are using a road parking space. I think he was reasonable in asking but I wouldn't be that brave!

As an alternative, what if neighbour with sleeping kids parked on your driveway temporarily so as to carry his kids to his house - and then immediately moved his car round the corner? Would you be ok with that? If so then maybe suggest he does that next time (only works if he has another adult at home obv)

Jizzomelette Thu 18-Aug-16 23:38:26

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Bloopbleep Thu 18-Aug-16 23:38:39

He has no off street parking and you have parking for 4 cars but only use two of the spaces, and you have to ask who is being unreasonable?

DesolateWaist Thu 18-Aug-16 23:41:50

Hmmm, of course you had every right to park on the road, there is nothing legally to stop you parking there or to give him the right to park there.
However, you have plenty of parking and you chose not to use it and to take up the on the road space. This pisses people without off street parking no end.

digitalpaintartist Thu 18-Aug-16 23:45:54

From someone who is 8 months pregnant and has a toddler DS, I can say you are being very unreasonable. It drives me mad that our neighbours with space for two-four cars on their drive take up the on-road parking meaning that those of us without drives have to park 'up the road' or 'round the corner'. It is bloody difficult walking what may seem a short distance to you, with a changing bag and a toddler in tow! Use your drive, be a good neighbour and be more considerate!

trufflehunterthebadger Thu 18-Aug-16 23:46:53

So let me just get this straight.

You are pissed off because he had the temerity to knock on your door while you were bathing your children and disturb you and put you to the vast inconvenience of putting your own car on your own drive while being a parent. Yet don't see the irony that he was trying to prevent his own children waking up.

Pot. Kettle. Black

And yes, YABVU for taking up on-street parking when you have enough space for 4 cars. It's an inconvience having to move the cars around. Oh, what's that I hear ? The sound of the world's tiniest violin.

SpookyRachel Thu 18-Aug-16 23:48:20

Ah, a parking thread in which the OP IBU [sighs happily, settles in]

BengalCatMum Thu 18-Aug-16 23:49:48

flowers for being a good neighbour and moving it.

But YANBU to not move it if you require use of both cars, or you just CBA.
Its public parking.

You bought a large drive but if you were an even more considerate person then you wouldn't have a fully paved front drive in the first place, as it is one of the major contributing reasons we have lots of flooding these days. So yes you may have space for 4 cars, but IMO...

1. you shouldn't be required to play an annoying game of 'gridlock' moving cars on a daily basis as you are just as entitled as anyone to use public parking
2. I would prefer if you de-paved part of your drive to benefit all of society rather than one neighbour.

olympicsrock Thu 18-Aug-16 23:51:55

Actually I am with you. You have 2 babies and it is quite a hassle to play musical cars to juggle the order of cars presumably backing them out etc. You are entitled to use public parking too. I don't think the neighbours wish for convenience trumps yours. After all he could just unload sleeping children outside his house and then park or wake them up to walk down the street.

Iggi999 Thu 18-Aug-16 23:53:16

I strangely find myself in the side of the OP. She was legally parked. No one owns the street. Did he ask like it was a favour or as if he was entitled to the space?
(For me the prospect of parking anywhere near my home is remote so think you're all lucky gits)

Lweji Thu 18-Aug-16 23:53:31

Nobody is being unreasonable.

You can park on the road. If you didn't have a drive and two cars you'd still take an extra spot on the road. With one spot being the entrance to your property.
By having that driveway you have less usable area on your land for other things.

The neighbour wasn't unreasonable to ask for a favour. They are only unreasonable if they demanded that you moved the car.

You wouldn't be unreasonable to not move the car if it's not convenient for you.

madein1995 Thu 18-Aug-16 23:54:14

YABU. Although technically, the road is public property, and not personal property, I think it a bit of a dick move to park outside someone else's house for long periods of time (as in not 5-10 mins) when you're not visiting them. You have your own drive, use it. In my street, no one has drives - the majority of people are decent enough to only park outside their own house. Those who don't find that often someone has accidently (ahem) blocked them in. Honestly OP, just keep your car to your drive.

GabsAlot Thu 18-Aug-16 23:54:46

legally no u dont have to but why park ther when have room

smeone lives in my roa oes this well they have a garage but occasionnaly likes to park on the street with limited space for no apprent reason

BaronessBomburst Thu 18-Aug-16 23:54:49

I think he was fair enough, tbh. We have space for two cars and just swap them around if we need a particular car, rather than leave one parked on the street.
It's not likely to happen again anyway, is it?

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