Out of my mind with worry- to come home early?

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Tooslowchickenmarengo Thu 18-Aug-16 12:32:00

long story short I've not felt myself since January with a wild array of changing symptoms.... Which doctors started to think were stress and anxiety related.
Had a transvaginal ultrasound on Tuesday afternoon after complaining about spotting between periods and pelvic pain. Went on holiday to Spain yesterday only to get a text from doctors to say results were back and to book urgent appointment with doctor.
Called this morning and explained I was on holiday could I have a telephone consultation with doctor as I needed to know. She said they have a policy not to call anyone outside England for telephone consultations and to make an apt for my return in a week. I pushed and pushed as I really need to know what the results as for it to require an urgent appt a day after having the scan. Eventually, Receptionist told me to call back at twelve and she would see if the doctor would speak to me. Called back at twelve and have been told that doctor will call me between three and six tomorrow.
I'm out of my mind with worry- I'm in the hotel bathroom crying because I know this must be something sinister to warrant the urgency. I don't know what to do/ I just wanted to enjoy holiday and relax after a crap start to the year but now this is hanging over us and I'm terrified. What do I do if the doctor confirms this? I can't stop worrying and my head is all over the place. Do I come home early? I feel so bad as I'm such a mess at the moment and this is ruining the holiday for DP and I. How do I take my mind off this?

minipie Thu 18-Aug-16 12:43:53

Please please try not to worry.

Urgent could mean anything - it could just mean "you need some medication so don't leave it several months". It doesn't mean it's terrible.

You've done everything you can by pushing for a call with the doctor tomorrow (Well done). You can't do anything else, even if you flew home on the next available plane you probably wouldn't get to see a doctor sooner. You will get more information tomorrow and can make decisions then. Please do NOT google, there is no point until you've spoken to the doctor and you could drive yourself nuts.

Is there an activity you can go and do this afternoon and tomorrow morning? Something active to take your mind off it like, say, trying out surfing or waterskiing? Have you told DP? Can I suggest a wine?

ZigZagIntoTheBlue Thu 18-Aug-16 12:45:07

Poor you, can you book a massage or have a long lunch, read a book or do a crossword, whatever to take your mind off it. I had spotting etc and had to get referred for precancerous cells in my cervix but it was all dealt with very easily in one appointment with no lasting effects. flowers for you, and a big wine for after the call!

davos Thu 18-Aug-16 12:46:18

Don't panic too much. Similar happened to me and 'urgency' was there were cyst on my ovaries. I had a couple of scans, internal and external. Turns out I have pcos. Not anything sinister.

Don't make any plans to come home until you have spoken to them. You probably won't get a flight until after the call anyway.

But I totally get the fear. I am awaiting results of a lump at the moment. It's a nightmare I have absolutely no advice than try your best to put it out of your mind. Which is so much easier said than done. flowers for you.

NavyandWhite Thu 18-Aug-16 12:49:30

Hold tight for now. Speak to the GP.
Sorry you're so stressed flowers

FeliciaJollygoodfellow Thu 18-Aug-16 12:50:51

Please please please try to calm down.

I've told this story before - I was called in for an urgent appointment regarding my sons blood test. I ran up to the surgery sobbing comvinced I was going to be told he had cancer.

Turns out all they said was he had a virus and would retest in two weeks. I was simultaneously upset and relieved and angry.

I know it's easier said than done, but try to calm down a bit. You can't change anything with worrying and you've done the right thing by getting it checked out. Try and draw a line under it, whatever happens you'll deal with it after your call tomorrow, and try and put it to the back of your mind.

flowers I know it's difficult.

Gottagetmoving Thu 18-Aug-16 12:50:55

I know it is difficult but don't assume it is really sinister before you have spoken to the GP.
Doctors tend to follow up anything abnormal very quickly so it always sounds like life or death when you get a message from them. Often it is something easily treatable and does not always mean something life threatening.
I had a similar thing some years ago and made myself ill with worry so much I had to be prescribed Beta Blockers. After putting myself and my family through hell for 2 weeks everything was fine.
I doubt anyone telling me to relax at that time would have helped at all but it did teach me that it is no use freaking out before you know the score.
Whatever it is, you will be treated well and thoroughly so concentrate on knowing that you will get sorted out, whatever,
I hope all goes well for you.

gingerboy1912 Thu 18-Aug-16 12:52:37

I agree with others urgent doesn't mean you need to fly home and rush to the gp. It means please phone sooner rather than leaving it a few weeks. Or it could mean the gp is going on holiday next week and wanted to get it sorted beforehand. Try to enjoy the rest of your holiday and have a gp appointment booked for when you get home. flowers

gingerboy1912 Thu 18-Aug-16 12:54:44

Meant to say my grandmother and my father have had this "urgent request" and it was just to take more bloods and have an ecg both turned out absolutely fine when the nurse had slots in her clinic. hmm

acasualobserver Thu 18-Aug-16 12:57:12

I've a feeling surgeries only have two positions after receiving test results: patient does need to make an appointment and patient doesn't need to make an appointment. I think you have to think about the word urgent in that context.

AnchorDownDeepBreath Thu 18-Aug-16 12:57:26

My urgent requests tend to be poor iron levels or kidney infections that I hadn't noticed.

If it was really urgent, they wouldn't let you leave it a week. I had some urgent results whilst in Spain once - they gave me the info over the phone and liased with a local hospital because it couldn't wait until I got back. They haven't referred you to healthcare where you are, so it won't be that bad.

Tooslowchickenmarengo Thu 18-Aug-16 12:59:39

Thank you to everyone- it's reassuring that some of you have had urgent but not altogether sinister reasons for a follow up appt. absolutely terrified but I know I need to try to put it out of my head- I am a right mess at the moment and poor DP must be worrying too but trying to keep me sane. Trying to keep a bit of sanity but riddled with guilt and annoyance at ruining our holiday with this. Agh. Going to go for a walk and get a picnic to try to take mind off it for today...

DoloresVanCartier Thu 18-Aug-16 13:01:13

I'm a worrier, a terrible worrier and would be in a state the same as you. I would be calling the doctor back and telling them you need to speak to a doctor now, that you have got into such a state with worry that you are becoming ill abroad.
The promising thing is the PP's who say that urgent really wasn't urgent, and also the doctor saying they wouldn't call until tomorrow, so it may not be all that urgent, Just their way of communicating (badly) that you may need more tests or medication. As a worrier, I know nothing we can say will ease your anxiety, but have these flowers as I'm thinking of you.

toomanycatsonthebed Thu 18-Aug-16 13:03:46

My 'urgent' last week that warranted a call and letter from the doc was low iron levels.... Xx

YouSay Thu 18-Aug-16 13:08:52

I had the same. A message left on my phone to urgently call back on a Friday. By the time I got the message they were closed and I had an agonising wait over the weekend. I rang first thing on Monday and morning and it was over something very minor that didn't even need further investigation.

Olives106 Thu 18-Aug-16 13:09:58

I got told to make an urgent appointment a month or two ago - turned out to be because I was very slightly anaemic and they wanted to retest my cholestrol (which turned out to be fine). It's not necessarily anything serious

BreconBeBuggered Thu 18-Aug-16 13:18:09

I got a call from the GP following tests, asking me to bring DS in straight away. Hobbled down to the surgery in a sweaty badly-hidden panic, only to end up with a prescription for something I could have bought over the counter. I'm a worrier too, and nothing we can say will entirely dispel that little voice of doom in your head, but very often 'urgent' just means 'a box we want to tick for operational reasons'.

Wetcappuccino Thu 18-Aug-16 13:26:19

I had something similar with a hospital consultant (Neurology). Following an MRI, his secretary called me at home to say he wanted to see me as soon as possible and that he would meet me out with his normal clinic appointment time on the ward. I worried about it and called the secretary back to see if anyone could put my mind at rest. They would not discuss it over the phone. A couple of days (and sleepless nights) later I went to my appointment and it was really nothing at all - just "everything still the same - we will continue to monitor things". Just try not to worry - I was convinced it must be terrible news too under the circumstances, and it wasn't. Best of luck.

PersianCatLady Thu 18-Aug-16 13:28:19

I know this must be something sinister to warrant the urgency
I wouldn't panic, they said this to me when my blood test results were inconclusive and they wanted me to pick up the form for another test.

SquidgyRedBall Thu 18-Aug-16 13:32:07

This happened to me. Went straight to the doctors only to be told 'results came back, we need to retest you in 6 months'

Please don't worry flowers

FlyingElbows Thu 18-Aug-16 13:32:27

I really wish GPs surgeries would do staff training on "how not to terrify the patient unnecessarily while still communicating effectively". "Urgent" is most likely receptionist code for "don't make this one wait three weeks" and meant to be patient code for "don't wait three months to make an appointment". What it comes across to vulnerable and scared people as is "there's something terrible wrong"! It's just bad communication and it's not fair to frighten people. Ofcourse GPs are busy and need to organise as efficiently as possible but that really should include remembering that those test results are attached to an actual person. I know it's a daft thong to say but try not to worry too much, Opflowers

FlyingElbows Thu 18-Aug-16 13:32:50

Or even a daft thing!

glueandstick Thu 18-Aug-16 17:19:10

Our GP only has routine or urgent appointments. Routine you have to phone at the beginning of the month and you might be lucky. Urgent is within the hour/morning/afternoon and is for everything else. You feel like a right pillock having an urgent appointment when it could wait a week but not 2 months.

Try not to worry. It is probably just can't wait a gazillion years.

heknowsmysinsheseesmysoul Thu 18-Aug-16 17:27:07

In the majority of cases, unless a HCP says something is urgent - people just don't bother so urgent is often used when it is a) urgent as in something sinister or b) something that just needs following up but isn't sinister.

RaeSkywalker Thu 18-Aug-16 17:33:50

As others have said, it might not be anything bad. I had this 2 weeks ago- told to come in urgently after a series of tests. I'm pregnant so was really worried about the baby.

... I had a UTI.

Hope that you managed to relax a bit and enjoy your picnic.

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