so basically when I was 14 my mom and dad split up, my mom left me with my dad. She moved into a place of her own then 6 months later she moved in with a friend....a male work friend...then 1 year after that they married.
I've always wanted to believe in some magical fairy tale world where my mom loved me and really wanted to be with me but her and my dad weren't happy and she had to leave and this marriage just happened by chance. Through my life I've always put my mom on some pedestal by seeking her advice and approvel and just wanting a normal mom/daughter relationship with her where we go shopping or for lunch etc. she's always had a high flying job and work always came first for her. Iv always had 'oh sorry I'm too busy I've got a meeting to prepare for etc' or I'd just phone to say hi and the call would last 5 mins if that as she always had to go coz she's busy or dogs need feeding.
Now the man she married and is still married to is a complete nob! He has black moods where he won't speak to my mom for 3 months at a time and it's just a horrible atmosphere. Yet she's mad about him, it's embarrassing really she's like a 12 yr old at a take that concert.
For the record my dad isn't a bad person and certainly never treated my mom how that dickhead does, my dads just a bit well...boring but has always been a constant in my life, always been there for me. My dad is now happily married again and I love that he found happiness again.
My mom on the other hand is not happy, she's 60 now, I think she drinks a lot, she obsesses over my step dad and tells people what to do all the time and gets pissed off when they won't do as she says.
So anyway fast forward I now have 2 dds of my own, oldest is 4 and youngest 3 months. I don't know if it's a hormonal thing or what but since I had dd2 I can't help but be angry that my mom left me at 14 yrs old for another man. I couldn't and wouldn't ever leave mine for anything! Now I have kids she suddenly wants to do all the mom/daughter stuff I've always craved but I'm over it. I'm focused on my girls and feel she can go lie in the bed she made. Of course I realise she had an affair but she would swear blind she didn't. I just feel pissed at her. Dp says I should let sleeping dogs lie but this plays on my mind a fair bit. So Aibu?
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Glittered · 17/08/2016 08:18
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