I've got long standing mental health issues, it's taken me four years to get myself on my feet. I'm actually feeling a lot better within myself at the moment, but things have really come to a head with my husband. I think the world of him, but he's driving me crazy.
I don't think he's actually grown up at all if I'm honest, and he's 31.
He lost his business about six months after we met. I tried to help him save his business I gave him everything I could get hold of. Anyway business was gone, and since he's been hounded, and hounded by bailiffs and debt collectors.
He needed a car, didn't have cash and couldn't obtain good credit. (He was offered finance at a stupid rate of about 6k over what the car cost) so I ended up getting the loan, under the strictest belief that he would pay, and on time.
Fast-forward to last December, he was made bankrupt. He had to send in payslips etc. He received a letter in April demanding these within seven days. He still hasn't done it.
Bankruptcy means he can't pay the car finance. So I say, I get PIP at £220 per month. This will pay for the car. I then get word from finance company, in two months arrears. So I've tried to make this up, but them arrears showing on my credit file means I am unable to get any finance for a car...fine, I will save and buy something cheap.
Then it transpires council tax doesn't get paid. Everything is in arrears. Everything.
Rent is 1 and a half months in arrears.
Then to make matters worse, he has a car accident last week, only for him to then say, ah I didn't tell the insurance company that I got 3 points on my licence last year...
So now I'm looking, and going, I finance a car for you, now I'm just about to do my driving test, and I've got NO way of getting a car. Especially as every penny I can get hold of in the foreseeable future will be going on clearing the payments he hasn't made...he isn't flush for cash. But it's not like he doesn't have money. His total bring home is around 3.2k per month.
I have started dog walking and boarding etc. As there's not much I can really do, as my mental health is so bad.
I don't know....I'm trying to figure out if it should be this difficult? Is he being as irresponsible as I think he is? Are these problems caused by my disability? Am I expecting a bit much?
Whatever I get my hands on, generally goes towards the families wants/needs.
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My husbands driving me mental!!
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hungryhippo90 · 16/08/2016 15:17
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