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my daughter wants a new wardrobe...50 mile ikea drive???!!

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user1471353057 Tue 16-Aug-16 14:36:14

my daughter (14) has been trying to persuade me for months and months for me to buy her a brand new wardrobe as hers is "too small" "doesn't go with her room" or whatever and I completely understand why she'd want one. at first, I was reluctant but offered £45 towards a second hand one if she could find anything half decent,but she now wants a brand new one from ikea that is over £100. she has saved up the other money for it herself (she has a job) and i don't know if i'm being mean or not when i told her that I won't drive fifty plus miles all the way to ikea for a brand new wardrobe in the middle of the year. it isn't her birthday, it isn't christmas, it's a big long excursion for one very expensive item she just happens to want. am i being unreasonable??? pls help!!!

Floggingmolly Tue 16-Aug-16 14:37:26

They deliver...

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen Tue 16-Aug-16 14:37:37

They deliver...

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen Tue 16-Aug-16 14:38:40

In the middle of the year

I don't understand that comment

user1471353057 Tue 16-Aug-16 14:39:23

the delivery is far too much money,almost double the actual wardrobe price

lastqueenofscotland Tue 16-Aug-16 14:39:39

They deliver and I think if at 14 she's managed to save up money she's actually earnt for it she clearly wants it.

anyoldname76 Tue 16-Aug-16 14:39:43

i think shes done really well to save up the rest of the money at her age, i would take her.

buxtonballoon Tue 16-Aug-16 14:40:23

Delivery is another £35 usually. I'd just take her, she must really want it to put more than £60 of her own hard earned money towards it at 14!

Im probably alone here but I still like going to ikea with my mum for a wander round and a bit of lunch, its a nice day out!

wowfudge Tue 16-Aug-16 14:40:56

Pretty mean of you when she has saved up more than half the cost at just 14. I'd money tight so the petrol costs are too much?

PotteringAlong Tue 16-Aug-16 14:41:08

What rule says you can't have a new wardrobe in the middle of the year? A wardrobe isn't a birthday or a Christmas present if she needs one and she's saved up half. It's 50 miles, not 50,000,000. They deliver if you don't want to do the hour or so drive.

user1471353057 Tue 16-Aug-16 14:41:09

what i meant by "the middle of the year" is that it isn't any special occasion it's just a random expensive non-birthday/christmas item

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen Tue 16-Aug-16 14:41:44

You'll pay 35 in petrol, won't you?

RainyDayBear Tue 16-Aug-16 14:42:14

I would probably take her (in exchange for a slice of Ikea's daim cake) on the basis that she's saved up a decent amount of money for it herself from working and would want to reward that. But I am a softie (and blooming love ikea!)

LurkingQuietly Tue 16-Aug-16 14:42:34

How tight is money? I can't imagine expecting my DC to have a wardrobe for a birthday/Christmas present.

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen Tue 16-Aug-16 14:42:49

135 quid for a wardrobe is really reasonable. Will it go in your car?

Trixieceratops Tue 16-Aug-16 14:42:57

Its only 50 miles!

JeanGenie23 Tue 16-Aug-16 14:43:49

A wardrobe would make a pretty poor Christmas present for a 14yr old, almost as bad as DH buying me Carpet cleaner sad

She has saved I think you just have to make the time to do it for her, don't go back on your word

NotYoda Tue 16-Aug-16 14:43:54

Make a bit of a day of it. I may be biased because I love Ikea, but I think you are being a bit mean when she's saved up half the money

SheSparkles Tue 16-Aug-16 14:44:21

YABU she's saved the money herself at the age of 14. She's done her bit, 50 miles is hardly the end of the earth, time for you to do your bit.

MrsTerryPratchett Tue 16-Aug-16 14:44:52

She saved up, wants to spend time on a 'road trip' with you and sounds very sensible and nice. One of the best times to talk to children about anything that's worrying them or is difficult is in the car.

I would bite her hand off and if DD wants to do this at 14, I will be very happy.

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen Tue 16-Aug-16 14:45:54

It's a nice day out!

wobblywonderwoman Tue 16-Aug-16 14:48:08

She sounds lovely op

Its a readonable and sensible thing for her to want.

EastMidsMummy Tue 16-Aug-16 14:49:01

50 miles!!! I used to drive that to work every day.

CatNip2 Tue 16-Aug-16 14:49:55

I wouldn't let my DD have an Ikea wardrobe if she had paid for all of it and we live ten miles from one! - all those pieces and stupid bloody instructions with no words just pictures.

I am also biased though having had several crappy pieces of kid's bedroom furniture over the years my Ikea days are over.

Lunar1 Tue 16-Aug-16 14:51:03

Why does Christmas/birthday matter if she's saved it. She sounds lovely. You sound like a right grump!

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