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To feel like my life is falling apart!

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verytiredmummy1 Tue 16-Aug-16 09:43:17

This may out me but never mind.

I'm a teacher. This is once a job I loved but recently have started to hate it. It's completely changed and I no longer enjoy it. That in itself isn't the main issue as I would have continued as it gives me an OK salary and stability.

However I have been diagnosed with a progressive disease (won't say what to hopefully not out me) and my specialist has advised me to give up teaching as the stress has made my disease more active.

I am the main earner in our house and am feeling upset and under pressure

I don't know what job can do now? Anyone got any experience of this?

I am probably being dramatic but I hate the fact that the choice over what I do has been restricted. Added to the fact I've had this diagnosis sad

Dowser Tue 16-Aug-16 10:10:05

So sorry to read this.
I can understand how you feel, that your life choices have been taken away.

As I see it there's two areas to focus on.

One from the grief of the loss of your health. Don't underestimate the fall out from this.
You might like to talk to someone at mind about this just to deal with the changes you are going to have to face.

I wouldn't rush this step. It's mind blowing and life altering and you need to give yourself time to adjust.

Then I would explore your choices from a better understanding of your health condition and its impact on you.

I also depending on your condition, which if for example was something like multiple sclerosis , I would join a forum to see what others are doing. There might be dietary shifts you could make to give your body the best chance of remaining stable.

MessyBun247 Tue 16-Aug-16 10:12:24

Sorry you are going through this.

Would private tutoring be an option?

Dowser Tue 16-Aug-16 10:20:02

Who is putting you under pressure op? Yourself or a partner?

Whenever you get a diagnosis of this magnitude you need to deal with the shock of it first before you can absorb what is happening to you and your body.

If it's a partner, they too will be feeling scared at possible changes in the status quo.

My dh had a stroke in January. He coped admirably with it but I could feel myself falling apart so took myself off for counselling.

Our status quo has changed. He would have had to have given up work if he wasn't already retired as he can no longer drive as it is I now do all the driving...everywhere. He used to take himself off for a walk on a morning. Now he doesn't do that. Plus we've since found out that it's been caused by a heart condition. So yes things have changed massively here.

verytiredmummy1 Tue 16-Aug-16 10:46:46

Thank you for your responses.
Pressure is pressure I'm putting on myself and just an unspoken pressure that I need to earn a decent salary. DH has been made redundant repeatedly so is now a stay at home dad

moonlight1705 Tue 16-Aug-16 10:51:28

Sorry to hear about that but you are in such a good position with a teaching degree. There are loads of jobs out there that should be less stressful that ask for good experience in teaching.

I was looking at an Education Officer for a river trust the other day which asks for people to know how to deliver experiences for kids but also would not be the all day teaching / all night planning & marking. Maybe something like that would be good?

Although, as other posters have said then take time to work out how it will all work and take time for yourself.

verytiredmummy1 Wed 17-Aug-16 16:07:14

Education officer looks perfect but have been searching for a while now and nothing seems to come up near where I live sad

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