I have a lovely, funny, beautiful DD of 14 months. I didn't think I'd like being a mum but I love it. I'm currently a SAHM.
A few weeks ago DH sat down with me and told me if I want to go back to University in September 2017 I need to get myself a part time job, and either put DD in Childcare or ask a family member to have her. His job covers our bills plus a bit of saving, but to go to University I'm going to need travel costs plus books etc.
I've been offered a job at the local supermarket, 3 days a week. 2 days pay will cover DD's childcare at a lovely nursery just 2 minutes walk from my house, with the extra day savings for me/University. I'll be able to cut down to 2 days a week when I start University next year, DH will then take on an extra day a week at work (currently works 4 days will go to 5) to cover the remaining days childcare.
DD will love nursery, I take her too baby groups and she crawls off (not yet walking) to play with the other babies without a backwards glance at me, she's happy to be left with other people, and I'll still get two days a week with her until September 2017 when I'll hopefully get at least 1 day in the week and 1 at weekends with her. Working will be good for me, I have low self-esteem and confidence and DH thinks it'll boost me up no end. Plus it means that I can go to University and therefore get a better job to give my DD a far better future.
I just feel so sad. I don't want my baby to think I'm abandoning her with strangers. I already miss her when she goes to MILs for 3 hours a fortnight.
AIBU to ask you to hand me a grip and ask you to tell me to woman up and get over it?
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SmallButPerfect · 15/08/2016 13:24
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