We were talked into letting my best friend's husband take the photos. He was an amateur photographer and I liked what he'd done before so thought it would be a lovely thing to do.
It didn't save us any money as we paid an extortionate amount for them and their children to stay in the hotel in return.
The photos were shit. There's one nice one which we've had framed but the others were really crap. He took loads of his own family. None of my sister. He took a creepy shot (on purpose, and he was really proud of it) that made it look like Dh was about to snog my mum. He also photoshopped that one 'for a laugh' to put DH's hand on my mums arse.
So that was all bad enough. But a couple of years later he actually assaulted me. Long story but basically he was out drinking with Dh, he left him in the pub and let himself in my back door (which was open for Dh to get in without using the noisy front door). I was asleep on the sofa and woke up to him sticking his tongue in my mouth. He then groped me and said some awful suggestive stuff, tried to get me to go to bed and said he'd let himself out. He eventually left.
I had him arrested but ultimately the cps dropped the charges. His wife cut me out completely and hasn't spoken to me since.
So obviously there's a lot of emotion tied up in the photos and it really upsets me that I don't have a beautiful photographic reminder of what was an amazing day.
My wonderful friend had a candid shot of us on the day and her DP (who is a very talented artist) painted it for us, so I have that, and it's wonderful.
But I get so jealous seeing other people's gorgeous wedding albums and just feel that the whole miserable experience has ruined my memories of the day.
Not really sure what I'm posting for, actually. It was just on my mind earlier and I needed to get my thoughts down.
We've been married six years, so none of this is recent. I'm just dwelling on it really.
AIBU?
I'm still so angry and upset about our wedding photos.
LewisAndClark · 13/08/2016 14:35
It was such a lovely day (with several MNers in attendance 
) and I have great memories of it. It just guts me that I don't have lovely shiny professional photos of it to look over.
I do have several candid shots that other people took though so it's not a total bust.
He's an utter twat, but I think the photos are probably more of a deflection from your anger about being assaulted. FWIW I paid a fortune for mine, did loads of research and still only like one of them! It's not that important. Most people's wedding albums are collecting dust in the attic. If you had a range of gorgeous photos (and no backstory) you would probably look at them no more than once a month!
It's understandable that you are disappointed but the marriage is much more important than the pics. They are nothing more than photos of one day in your life. Recreating the day would be silly imo. DH and I will splash out on a photographer again in future - maybe at DS naming ceremony - and I will try harder not to gurn next time 
OP I'm so sorry you had such a terrible experience
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One thing I did after my wedding was to sit down and write out my memories of the day in a little journal- the night before, the nervously excited preparation, how I felt saying the vows and how DH smiled at me, my rather macho brother welling up as he recited a reading...
Corny but such a lovely account to re-read and it brings it to life more than even photos could.
Might that be something you could do? I know it's been a while but I'm sure you have some precious abiding memories of the day that only you can know. Write them down for your DC in years to come!
This is awful OP.
I do think talking about this to your counsellor would be a good idea though as, to be honest, most people I know don't really look at their wedding photos ever often, so it does seem to be something you are focussing on rather than addressing trying to resolve your feelings about the horrible thing that he did to you
I hope you get some lovely photos back from your friends.
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