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DH cleaning the loo brush in the bath... Who is BU?

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MouseholeCat Sat 13-Aug-16 11:42:54

So I am probably BU to have a loo brush in the first place especially as its presence has just resulted in a disagreement. Nonetheless, I'll proceed...

For context, we divide chores 50:50, although DH is happier to live amongst dirt than I am so I tend to need to coax him. I clean the bathroom weekly on a Sat or Sun, doing wipe downs when needed in the week. We've got a general rule whereby, if you create an unreasonable or gross mess, you clean it up yourself even if it's made in the other's domain.

This AM, DH went to the loo- I could hear him inside faffing around a bit, and then he emerged and stated that "we need to unblock the drains". It turns out he's had used too much loo roll, the loo has clogged and he can't shift it using the loo brush. I direct him to some caustic soda, tell him how to use it, and the loo gets unblocked.

Afterwards, the bathroom door is open and I hear him rinsing something off using the shower head in the bath. I ask him what he's up to and it turns out he's cleaning the loo brush in the bath using the shower head and rinsing it all down the plug hole. No disinfecting agent was applied. He finishes, puts loo brush back in its holder, and turns to leave the bathroom.

I am pretty disgusted by this. He wasn't going to tell me what he was up to, meaning I could be using the shower not knowing there was, essentially, shit in it. I ask him if he can clean the shower now as it's really gross, he objects on the basis that I clean it on Saturday anyway, it's no different to cleaning your bum, and I'm unnecessarily worried about the germs.

He questioned how else would he clean the loo brush. I answered that I generally give it a shake off in the loo water and that does it. If that didn't shift it, I'd chuck it out and buy a new one.

I'm now second guessing myself- am I really being too precious about the germy status of the bath? What is the reasonable way to clean a loo brush? Who is really being unreasonable?

mrsfuzzy Sat 13-Aug-16 11:44:38

one word - gross.

StarOnTheTree Sat 13-Aug-16 11:45:26

YANBU That is grim sad

limitedperiodonly Sat 13-Aug-16 11:45:58


MouseholeCat Sat 13-Aug-16 11:46:44

I think I just need to get rid of the loo brush so this never happens again...

woodhill Sat 13-Aug-16 11:48:36

Yuck, yanbu

mrsfuzzy Sat 13-Aug-16 11:51:53

what is wrong with flushing the brush with clean water ,squirting dettol or the like over the brush over the loo pan and then flushing, lus rinsing it in clean water. bit of faff but it's far better than dh's idea. i don't like loo brushes admittedly because of potential mess. if our loo blocks i chuck half a bucket of water down and flush at the same time, usually works o.k. lovely subject for a relaxing sat morning smile

Pearlman Sat 13-Aug-16 11:53:33

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mrsfuzzy Sat 13-Aug-16 11:53:40

op try toilet duck cleaning pads, use once and flush, more hygienic than a grim brush, dettol pad end of handle and your'e sorted.

WatcherOfTheNight Sat 13-Aug-16 11:56:37


AnUtterIdiot Sat 13-Aug-16 11:58:52

It's a weird thing to do because the best way to clean a toilet brush is to bleach the loo, scrub around with the brush and then flush and hold the brush in the flushing water. But if he's run plenty of hot water down whilst rinsing the brush I wouldn't be that bothered about germs. I mean, if you got covered in poo you'd wash it off in the bath.

ScarletForYa Sat 13-Aug-16 11:59:14


I would kill him. Everywhere contaminated!

The horror. If he thinks that's ok what else had he been doing?

😱 😱 😱

MouseholeCat Sat 13-Aug-16 11:59:23

mrsfuzzy- that's a very logical suggestion. Given that DH had a bloody jug by him (used for pouring the caustic soda mix down the loo, it would have been very easy to do). I'll suggest that for the future...

I'm no clean freak, but his nonchalant approach to basic hygiene is shocking at times!

Coulddowithanap Sat 13-Aug-16 11:59:44

I also can't see a problem as long as the bath is cleaned afterwards.

KayTree87 Sat 13-Aug-16 12:00:21

That is disgusting. YANBU.

MouseholeCat Sat 13-Aug-16 12:01:09

AnUtterIdiot- he was using the cold tap only...

sobs in corner at the thought of what else is going on in this house

coconutpie Sat 13-Aug-16 12:01:37

OMG that is totally gross. HE, not you, has to clean the bath. Ugh minging.

Oysterbabe Sat 13-Aug-16 12:02:51

That is disgusting.

AnUtterIdiot Sat 13-Aug-16 12:03:07

My DH has pointed out that this would just never happen in our house because neither of us would ever think to clean a loo brush anywhere other than in the loo. So I guess - YANBU, it is a bit gross but I think you don't need to be massively anxious about germs.

DereksGotATail Sat 13-Aug-16 12:03:11

It's not nuclear waste. I really don't see a problem. Clean the bath and get on with life.

Pearlman Sat 13-Aug-16 12:03:28

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

AnUtterIdiot Sat 13-Aug-16 12:03:58


YANBU. Hot water is a baseline requirement. I've done my best for your DP but he's on his own now.


mrsfuzzy Sat 13-Aug-16 12:05:07

could i think it's the thought of it that is making someone us feel ugh. the sheer nature of a toilet means that mass should be flushed away quickly in a confined area [lid down] to keep germs contained, there isn't going to be the same amount of contamination in a bath, plus water spray in the air spreads the bacteria onto every surface including tooth brushes etc, now that is really gross. god i've just realised that 'i've got too much of an invested interest in this thread grin i need a brew.

DesignedForLife Sat 13-Aug-16 12:05:27

That's grim.

GoblinLittleOwl Sat 13-Aug-16 12:08:25

Presumably you wash your bottom in the bath and under the shower?

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