Last night I passed out drunk in my garden and threw up in my daughters potty.

[StrongTeaHotShower]

I'm really scared I might be developing a problem. I'm getting so drunk at least 2-3 times a week and on the days in between I'm still drinking, just not to excess.

The problem is I don't want to stop drinking completely, just to be able to regulate my intake.

I called AA and might try to go to a meeting next week but I know they encourage zero alcohol and honestly I can't imagine life without it. Can people just learn to cut down without giving it up completely?

[MsJamieFraser]

No!

Tbh your drinking while in charge of a minor, you need help and fast.

[davos]

Were you in charge of your Dd?

If your drinking is a problem I doubt you can cut down, tbh.

[Thattimeofyearagain]

Go to the meeting, get support in place. Please don't let your dd have to get used to seeing mummy hungover / drunk. Its a horrible way to grow up

[NoahVale]

well done for taking steps.

[makingacupoftea]

I think you have to face up to the fact you have a problem and that you CANT regulate your intake. Continue on the positive path you have started and go to the meeting also see your gp they will be able to offer support as well.

[HippyPottyMouth]

There are two long-running and supportive alcohol threads in Relationships. DRY and Brave Babes Battle Bus. You will get good support on those from people who have been there, without the hard time you're likely to get on AIBU. I would heartily recommend you check them out. You are not alone and you can put this right.

[StrongTeaHotShower]

Yes, me and Dp in charge of dd. He had a bit but wasn't pissed. He picked me up and put me to bed.

I'm so ashamed of myself.

[LaurieFairyCake]

Is it your intention to pass out drunk on the lawn and throw up in a potty?

If that's your intention, fine.

If however you can't control your intake then you have a problem with alcohol.

So if you're going out and can't stop yourself drinking after a few then AA and abstinence may be the place for you.

The best thing to do is not drink for a month and notice if you have cravings for alcohol - the cravings are the worrying part.

[BoxofSnails]

Oh OP, this thread is going to make tough reading for you. I lost my daughter through alcoholism, and the only way for me has been abstinence. I'm glad you're questioning it, and AA is a good place to learn what it is you suffer from. Any other type of help, if you're a parent and especially a single parent they will refer to SS automatically. You may one day see why but at the time it's wounding.

I'd join the DRY thread here, and have a look at the brighteyes forum online s they support all types of recovery. PM if I can help. You might hear how bad and terrible people think you are here - don't let that stop you from seeking help and turning to a drink once you've read it.

[davos]

What does your dp think?

[Littlepeople12345]

Please please get help. I used to drink a lot before having children but I haven't had a drop in 3 years because I co sleep with both my youngest dd's. How old is your DD?

Please get help, I grew up in a house with an alcoholic and it was not fun.

[StrongTeaHotShower]

I couldn't not drink for a whole month. I mean i could but wouldn't want to go that long.

No absolutely not my intention to pass out drunk. I just get carried away.

[davos]

No absolutely not my intention to pass out drunk. I just get carried away.

you have answered your own question.

You clearly can't cut down. My grandad was an alcoholic buy could go 3 to 4 years a time without drinking, with no support or anything. But he couldn't have just one. Once he had one, that was it. He would drink until he ended up in hospital. It was all or nothing.

Drinking a bit wasn't an option.

Why don't you want to give it up?

[Thattimeofyearagain]

You can't regulate your alcohol intake. Last night proved it.

[StrongTeaHotShower]

It's fun most of the time and it's a good way to cope with stress. I'm a hcp with a good but stressful job, then I come home to a wonderful but high needs two year old.

[thecatsarecrazy]

I used to want a drink, would get annoyed if dh hadn't bought a bottle of wine to wind down with, used to drink several at the weekend after a tough shift at work. Then I became pregnant and had to stop. I thought it would be hard but now seeing my brother knock back several beers and ciders has opened my eyes and I really don't miss it. If you have a big enough reason to stop ( your daughter) then please get the help you need

[StrongTeaHotShower]

Dp doesn't mention it.

[PotteringAlong]

I couldn't not drink for a whole month. I mean i could but wouldn't want to go that long.

Could you? Could you really? When was the last time you went 48 hours without alcohol?

When your daughter looks back on her childhood, what would you like her to remember about you?

[davos]

Its not a good way to cope with stress.

Do you feel stress free this morning?

Did you feel happy? Like you would if last night has actually been fun?

I am not judging you. I am related to several alcoholics, so have heard it all before. Usually the reasons for drinking aren't true at all.

You don't sound unstressed or like you are having fun.

[StrongTeaHotShower]

I did part of dry January. I started later because there were still social things going on and stopped early but probably did about 2-3 weeks.

[davos]

Dp doesn't mention it.

He doesn't even make a joke of how drunk you are?

If I was that hammered, dh would laugh. As it never happens.

surely you have spoken to him about the fact You think you may have a problem?

I think it's great you want to make some changes.

What his relationship with drink like

[HermioneJeanGranger]

Get help. This isn't fair on your DP or your poor DD.

[StrongTeaHotShower]

I'm not an alcoholic. I have a problem with not being able to regulate my drinking. I'm scared of becoming an alcoholic.

I hate being hungover with my dd. She doesn't deserve grumpy mummy.

[HermioneJeanGranger]

Get help. This isn't fair on your DP or your poor DD.