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changesaremychoice Thu 11-Aug-16 23:30:08

Don't want to out myself so will have to be a bit vague. Giving notice at my job tomorrow - been there 8 months. Loved it at first but past couple of months have been very unhappy - certain members of staff are disrespectful, it's become very cliquey, I've been bad mouthed to people outside the business (close knit area) and basically I've worked really hard to feel like now my face doesn't fit.
I don't have a contract, no legal notice period etc. My boss says that as a man he can't deal with 'bitching and moaning' hence me not wanting to be honest about my issues - it's not bitching and moaning it's fact he's just not always there to witness disrespect and cliquey behaviour.
It's in the service industry and August is obviously high season but I can start another job in a week which I really want.
AIBU to give my weeks notice tomorrow and not give all the reasons I stated above? I don't want to be talked about and slagged off when I leave, I don't particularly want to offend anyone and I don't want it to end in a heated discussion which it may well do if I raise my grievances. Part of me thinks if I had an appraisal it wouldn't go well - other staff nit pick at things I do behind my back (or so I've been told) and apparently I should ALWAYS be available to work late or pick up extra shifts at the last minute. I have three children!
So yeah sorry for the long post but AIBU to just say it's not working, I don't want to get into a long discussion because my issues may not be relevant to anyone else and also not disclose where my new job will be? Thanks

Jaynebxl Thu 11-Aug-16 23:31:37

If you have no contract then presumably you don't need to give any notice.

changesaremychoice Thu 11-Aug-16 23:33:18

No I don't legally but I won't just walk out and leave people to cover my shifts. But I know I will be questioned as to why, what the issues are and with who, where I am moving onto etc and I just don't want a massive conversation about it all. Because some of the issues do just get brushed under the carpet by everyone and I want to leave with dignity, without snapping on someone for being a condescending prick if you see what I mean

missingmumxox Thu 11-Aug-16 23:49:36

I was told a while back by someone in HR on the QT, that you only have to give notice in line with your pay, so if paid weekly, 1 week is all that is needed, monthly, 1 months notice, my notice period at the time was 3 months, and she said even though it was in my contact it was not very enforceable, they rely on people just accepting it.

changesaremychoice Thu 11-Aug-16 23:58:15

My pay is weekly so fingers crossed it will go well. I just don't want a massive debate tbh because once I let things tumble out my mouth they won't stop confusedshock

senua Fri 12-Aug-16 00:03:21

Just say you are going because the other job has more money / holiday / flexibility.

changesaremychoice Fri 12-Aug-16 00:07:13

I want to avoid mentioning other job at all really - if I say that then it will probably seem like I am trying to negotiate and I'm really not I want out

SaggyNaggy Fri 12-Aug-16 00:08:08

Id not go back at all.
Why are you attempting to not inconvenience or offend people that are forcing you into this position?
Seems bonkers to me, I'd likely be telling everyone why as well. Let's also face it, they'll talk about you anyway.

changesaremychoice Fri 12-Aug-16 00:10:45

My DH said the same but I'm too soft! There are a couple of people who are absolutely genuine lovely human beings who would have to pick up my shifts and I have a shocking guilty conscience. If I do it right and people slag me off then I can tell them to get fucked with a clear conscience grin

ImissGrannyW Fri 12-Aug-16 00:12:37

This advice is a gazillion years old, so feel free to ignore it. When I went to secretarial college (to learn shorthand and typing on a typewriter!) they said that when you hand in your notice, the letter should ONLY be about your leaving and NEVER the reason(s) why... it's up to employer to ask you that if they choose to. So your letter should say:


Dear Employer

This letter is to advise you I wish to hand in my resignation from today's date. I understand I have to give abc notice, so I will be leaving on xyz date (then mention any unpaid leave you still have outstanding and state your reason for taking it, or ask to be paid for those days).

If you like the place/want to be nice you say Thank you for the opportunity of working with you, and I enjoyed/will learn from xxx

Yours sincerely


SaggyNaggy Fri 12-Aug-16 00:13:37

I'm that case just hand in a notice. If anyone asks why tell them its private and say,
"I just dpnt need thia job anymore" the pull this biggest grin you can muster, keep the feckers guessing.

Dobinette Fri 12-Aug-16 00:16:41

Dont over-complicate it. Just say, 'I'm looking for a new challenge'. You don't have to explain further, just shrug.

I would tender a resignation letter and expect a letter of confirmation back though, for future reference in case you need to prove you worked there for whatever reason.

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