To think this offer was odd?

(6 Posts)
NapQueen Thu 11-Aug-16 17:10:08

A few months ago I met a woman whose dd will be going to school with mine come September. The girls had a play and we had a chat. She asked for my number and mentioned that her dd would be having a birthday party in the summer if we could make it. I said "sounds nice, text me the details when you can".

Not seen nor heard from her since (not altogether bothered, lives busy etc).

Had a message from her today to give me the date and time of her dd's party and it's only a few days time. I'm at work that day and both my kids (dd 4 and DS 20mo) would be with their childminder but thanks, and hope it's a lovely party.

She then offered to take both my kids all day. All day. Someone I don't know. Someone whose never met my youngest. Knows nothing about me or the kids.

I'm a bit agog and made a polite decline but felt so uncomfortable and unable to put "errrrrrr no because you are a stranger to us all"

Aibu to think it an incredibly odd suggestion?

Grilledaubergines Thu 11-Aug-16 17:13:39

To you it's odd. To her, she's probably trying to be helpful and wants the opportunity for both children to get to know eachother before September.

I wouldn't read anything into it. It's not for you, so all you need to say is thanks but you're worried your children might be a bit unsettled as she's new to them.

Optimist1 Thu 11-Aug-16 17:19:42

It would be nice to reply that although the party date doesn't work for you could you all meet up on x date? I agree with Grilled that she's being kind and hoping your girls can start a friendship.

YelloDraw Thu 11-Aug-16 17:33:56

Yeah offer to meet up another time with an actual concrete date or two.

FasterThanASnakeAndAMongoose Thu 11-Aug-16 18:23:25

I think it's a really kind offer but she probably didn't really think it through. I agree she wants the girls to start a friendship.

Just say thanks but no thanks, but suggest a meet up on a different date.

NapQueen Thu 11-Aug-16 20:56:20

Thanks for the thoughts. Agree the underlying reason was probably of striking up a friendship.

I'll message in a few days and see if she fancies a park meet up

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