To dislike my in-laws ALOT!!!(397 Posts)
So me, hubby and our 2 boys aged 4 and 3 have made the long journey down to South Wales to stay with hubbys dad and step mum. Which is hard work all by itself as it means a 4:30 start to try and avoid traffic and also the obligatory 'are we there yet'
So we arrive and the don't do this don't do that, come away from there and oooo don't touch that begins almost instantly! After being cooped up in a car for 5 hours the last thing my boys need is to be chastised on a minutely basis! So we suggest the park well them being pretty rubbish grandparents don't fancy that so off we go alone!
But anyway on to my main rant, my 3 yo is super fussy and only really eats sausage and chips for tea (I've spoken to the health visitor and have been told not to worry) is then basically a really unhealthy child in their eyes as he didn't want the roast lamb dinner they had been preparing (in fact neither did my 4 yr old but that's by the by) i also do not like lamb or the idea of cheesy mash potatoes with gravy ( I forgot to add I am also fussy) so me and 4yo ended up eating sausage and roast potatoes. Much to their disgust and several tuts and dirty looks. I'm nearly 30 so why does this upset me so much! I even got told this morning when I said I didn't like Cheerios that I only didn't like them because they don't have sugar on!! I nearly exploded my inner self just wanted to shout at step mum in law I don't like Cheerios because I don't like bloody Cheerios ok!!
Sorry about the massive rant but I seriously needed to vent somewhere.
Vent away. Did you take lots of sausages and your favourite cereal with you? How long are you staying
being tortured for?
I'll admit I have a low tolerance for fussy adults. And I'd be doing everything in my power to try to coax a fussy 4yo away from a sausage and chips diet (god, the salt content alone would be a real worry).
I got a bit pissed off with my SIL when they came for Easter lunch and she sat dn up to the table an hour before lunch was ready and gave him ham sandwiches because he wouldn't eat a roast. She didn't even give him the option to try it.
Your fussiness has obviously rubbed off on your kids and that's a shame.
You clearly don't like your ILs though and thats colouring your feelings.
Can you go home?
Sorry but at almost thirty I'd think you should just be sucking it up, instead of saying you don't like the stuff. Lamb fair enough, you can get away with eating sausages like a fussy child but cheerios?! Just sodding eat them. Your in-laws are putting you up, don't be that awful, fussy adult. If you that fussy then don't say 'I don't like this/that', just politely eat something else!
I've had two fussy littles ones - haven't we all. One is growing out of it, but the other's still pretty bad.
I'm pretty mortified when she wont eat what someone's taken the time to prepare.
As for me and my child rejecting the dinner someone's cooked and having sausages instead - 😱😵
No but there's a coop down the road which is being seriously hammered for sausages might I add we are only down here really as hubbys 90 yo grandad moved here to be closer to his son (hubbys dad) I've told them all to go out and have an Indian tonight (hubbys favourite takeaway) as I need a break from them not they know that ! As you could guess I don't like Indian food but that was also a big issue as I should be broadening my eating habits!! Seriously doing my tree in!
Go and do a shop and get your fav things + wine - lots of wine.
Hopefully you are near a beach/park etc.. and get out for the day.
Us without young children get a bit overwhelmed when faced with little lively ones sometimes.
Cheerios are packed with sugar! You have my sympathy OP! Hope you aren't staying too long. They sound v hard work.
Yeah, I think the fussiness maybe rubs them up the wrong way. It would me to be honest if you were staying in my house- you're a grown woman.
Allergies/intolerances aside, sometimes you have to suck it up. Can't see what's so offensive about Cheerios!
Wow, you sound like hard work. And not wanting to go to the park does not make someone a poor grandparent!
Your DC is unhealthy, and would be perceived as such by anyone. A lot of HVs don't know the first thing about health (e.g. telling a MNetter to put her EBF 4 month old on a diet!), if I were you I'd be tackling your son's diet as soon as possible to avoid health problems later in life.
YABU just got the use of "hubby"!
You sound a bit of a nightmare to be honest - did they know you have an aversion to lamb? if not they were just being hospitable and making (what they thought ) was a nice traditional meal for their son, DIL and DGC.
If you/ the DC eat a limited diet take food with you they will eat - maybe try explaining why rather than turning your nose up - you might find them more receptive. There again you might not if they are a bit set in their ways, but still worth making an effort.
They sound a bit rubbish too not wanting to go to the park, but that's based on what you've said. There may have been a myriad of reasons why going to the park wasn't convenient.
Get used to the " don't touch that" if they are anything like my mamgu and older aunt, the house will be full of ornaments and the like!!!
I bet your DH is delighted with your obvious dislike of his family.
I agree with those saying your fussiness seems to rub off on your kids. And it's fair enough to ask them not to be fidgety. Anyway as pp said you are a grown woman and you can suck it up for a few days. They might be viewing you as hard work as well.
Wow that was not what I was expecting would you all rather I force fed my child till he was sick!!! As that is what he was doing he is repulsed by some foods and is just sick at the sight of it!
And also yes I am nearly 30 so if I choose to not eat something that is my choice. I have a varied diet at home but it's difficult when in someone's home who is so critical off everything!?!
And I speak as someone who has a "fussy diet" I'm not fussy, I have problems with food.
Did you discuss food with your in laws before you arranged to go visit?
They thought they was doing something nice by having a meal ready and you have basically rubbed it in their face and refused to eat it
Look at it from their point of view - they've made a lovely roast, thinking you are all going to have a nice family meal, and 3 out of 4 of you wont eat it!
If you are ALL fussy eaters you could have let them know beforehand.
Hopefully they will relax with the other stuff as they get used to having your DC there.
My eldest boy will eat most things put in front of him and he was exactly the same as my youngest son a year ago so quite clearly it isn't my "fussiness" rubbing off on them!
Your choice yes, so provide for 'your choice' (also known as ridiculously fussy) yourself.
Also, don't be so bloody stupid with the force feeding comment. What a hysterical overreaction because the comments aren't what you wanted. You wanted mil bashing and didn't get it.
Did you expect everyone to eat sausage and chips every night then or your in-laws to cook separate meals for everyone?
There are lots of foods I dislike but nobody realises because I don't make a big song and dance about it.
You sound a bit childish tbh.
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