To be crap at keeping in touch?

[Bearasarahus]

I'm pretty bad at keeping in touch with one of my good friends.

Lately I have been able to see her a couple of times which has been great and she suggested going on hol (actually we both did). Best weekend for her is about a month away, the weekend before I start a new job.

She messaged about three weeks ago in Facebook trying to arrange a Skype and then once again after and I haven't replied! I feel terrible, I really want to go, I was just tying up some loose ends and making arrangements for other commitments I have going on at the time. I got pretty ill halfway in between too and saw message on hol so kept meaning to reply and every now and then I think shit I must do!

I'm worried it's too late now though? It was only three weeks ago though and we are only going somewhere short-haul. I don't want her to give up on me for being shit or to feel like I'm ignoring her - really not trying to! Just got stressed with the planning and now it's few weeks later and I feel terrible!!

What to say back?! I feel like my messages to her akways say sorry for late reply and I'm so angry at myself. She is very much a go-getter though whereas I'm more of a lazy procrastinator!

[molyholy]

If she is a good friend and is aware of your haphazard contact, I'm sure she will be used to it. Also if she is a good friend, just get in touch. I'll bet you are building it up in your head because you are feeling guilty. I speak as someone who is truly awful at keeping in touch with family and if it wasn't for WhatsApp group chats, I would be even worse. The good friends I have - we can go weeks and sometimes months without speaking, then pick up where we left off, so don't stress. Don't procrastinate. Grab the bull by the horns and insigate contact first thing in the morning.

[Bearasarahus]

Ok! I just feel like she'll be disappointed in case it's too late to arrange the holiday

[SuperBoppy]

Seems to me that in the time it took you to type all that you could have replied to your good friend...?

[AnchorDownDeepBreath]

Just reply. She'll be a lot happier that you've replied and are talking to her!

Plus you've got three weeks/one month. There's still time!

[Bearasarahus]

SuperBoppy I agree, I get really anxious and guilty about these things though and put them off

[SuperBoppy]

I understand completely, I've done the same thing and wondered if they'd ever speak to me again. They did.

I went through some depression when i was younger and even completely ignored a wedding invite from a friend. I explained how I'd been and they understood and forgave me.

All I will say is that the longer you leave it the worse you will feel, and the less your friends might understand. Just message, say you're sorry and explain how you've been feeling. I would understand if you were my friend, and if she doesn't how good a friend could she be.

It will be fine.