Yes, probably I am.
To cut a long story short, I was always very academic at school and got into a good university to do a hard subject. Got good grades all the way through until fourth year hit and, although I was still achieving good marks, I decided to take some time out before taking final exams. It's worth saying that I had already completed 2/3 of my degree at this stage so was definitely going to return to do the exams. I also had a grad job offer which I didn't want to lose.
Anyway, one year on and I have a good degree and job starts next month, happy days.
I was talking to my DM about it today (who understandably found this whole time stressful, I returned home etc etc) and she basucally said she avoided seeing friends and family during this period as she didn't want to say anything!! I understand that she wanted to protect my privacy but I actually feel really hurt and offended, as if she's ashamed of me?!
Firstly achievements aren't just academic or about who can get the best job etc! What if I had dropped out?! And secondly I still did have other things going for me - I had done well and there was never any question of me not going back into study or work.
I actually told her to F off. Which makes me horrible and which she took badly
But I am so hurt to feel like such a disappointment to her! I was always brought up to be a bit of a people-pleaser and she is not from this country, and pretty reserved when it comes to huge displays of pride or emotion. She is very supportive and loving and kind but has never been the type to say "I'm so proud of you" or "I love you" or just hug me or whatever.
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To have told my mum to F off?
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TheWorriedTalrus · 10/08/2016 11:14
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