Dhs birthday this month. I'll start by saying that I'm half sure he agrees with me, as I'm not 100 percent of his stance (he's at work so hasn't told me much). It's dhs birthday this month. We didn't really have plans. We've had a crazy few weeks moving etc so it was bottom priority.
His co workers/friends (we'll refer to them as friends for ease) have "decided" they'll be coming over to get pissed with DH since its dhs birthday If he was up for it, as a once off I'd "allow" it. But. I can't bring myself to.
His friends have been awful to me, and sometimes to him too.
Not as bad to him, just not consulting him about plan changes leaving him standing about for 1hr before remembering they'd not updated him , a few arsey comments and the odd drunken tiff yes they're a pack of assholes however when I've accompanied Dh on work do's their treatment of me has been worse. By the way, I intend on invite (of the group/management) only. I have never turned up
Uninvited. Other partners have attended, too.
One lady he works with, right after I'd had a mc, sort of rounded on me outside of the pub we were at (waited for DH to go in, myself and lady were outside having a cigarette) started going on. First it was "I'm sorry for your loss" then it was "Dh name was so gutted" "he was so excited to do X y and z with the little one, and had even spoken to
Managers name about provisions for when you were due to go into labour. I'd never seen him so happy" like cheers love this is what I need 6 days after the fact
Another woman threw a drink down me because I asked her to lean over a bit (she'd
Moved into my seat, fine, but was blocking my phone, bag, drink and cigarettes so I needed to grab them) I had to ask 5 times before she moved, she then proceeded to
Pick her drink up and tip it backwards into me
I can think of lots of examples.
All point down to general rudeness and cattyness and nastiness.
I've also had sexist comments made about me, which I thought was ridiculous. To the effect of get back to the kitchen... Strange as they're all chefs/back of house team O.o
Over to you MN jury, irrespective of Dh being up for it or not would I be U to refuse to have them in my home? The above is just a small sample of what's happened but at the end of each work do/event/party/outing I've been invited on (always go as Dh doesn't want to be alone- that's since stopped) I've gone home in tears...
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OreosAreTasty · 10/08/2016 11:09
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