I've been called snobby, a party pooper and boring.
So as not to drip feed I have high functioning autism. So does dd but she is much more sensory than me.
The traditional family wedding around here is a huge church wedding with all the relatives (there would be hundreds) then to a noisy pub back room with awful flashy lights. Where every one will proceed to get pissed, probably fight, at the very least have a few tiffs.
I was willing to consider this when it would just be me that was extremely uncomfortable but I refuse to put dd through that amount of torment and meltdowns on what I want to be a nice day for us.
Any other idea I come up with is being torn apart by relatives who don't really understand autism. I just wanted to vent on here really before I send confetti bombs out.
'Oh don't you want to share your being day with your family?'
No. There are about 200 of the fuckers I only see when there is free booze/food on offer. I can't stand most of them or crowds. I want a few of the people closest to me who I actually see day to day.
I really couldn't give a fuck if Aunty Judy would get upset if little Jimmy whose 40's fifth cousin isn't invited. NONE of you are invited, stick that in your pipe Judy.
'All the family can't afford to/ want to go to the Isle of Wight to that small church that means so much to you as a couple'
Good. You have discovered my master plan.
A) I know damn well you can't/won't. That's the idea (and why I've made it out to be far more expensive tang it actually is 
)
B) That church means a lot to DP and I even though we aren't religious. We have had many miscarriages but we left a candle there twice when I was 8 weeks pregnant while on holiday and got dd and ds.
'The family will fall out with you if you don't have a big party, we all live a big party and a drink'
Good for you. I hate big parties. So I'm not having one.
Sorry. That felt good though 😄
AIBU?
To not want a bloody disco piss up for my wedding.
Peppatina · 09/08/2016 23:00
More power to you!
Have a 
and screw the lot of them:o
but that's the best part of a wedding!
YANBU
have the day you want. You're paying for it, it's your day, fuck them.
Thanks Procrastinator
It just gets so wearing sometimes.
Why it is of vital importance that anyone who is vaguely related to me (but that I probably wouldn't even recognise) attends is beyond me.
They obviously don't knew me if they were expecting a huge wedding/party in the first place 😄
Thank you CruCru 
It's the lovely church at Godshill (we can have the religious ceremony there but will have actually done the registration beforehand as we live in the Midlands)
Cheers everyone's
The replies have cheered me right up 😄
If I was the sort of person who'd have a he party I think that woukd be the t-shirt slogan.
'Fuck you Judy'
I had four guests at our wedding, MIL had a cats bum face all day, BIL was quick to point out how busy he was around the time of the wedding, DH was quick to respond that he wasn't to worry, because he wasn't invited.
It was worth it just for that
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I had none of your issues well I do now as I have a child with ASD but we eloped. I'd highly recommend it
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