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AIBU to think neighbour is being unreasonable?

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Rosamund1 · 09/08/2016 08:26

The day we moved in she said to DH can we keep the noise down with the banging furniture. We are moving in ffs.
Over the past few years she has complained when dd slammed the garden door, and several times that we are too noisy going up and down the stairs. She messaged me saying can we tread more lightly and close doors quietly. The neighbour on the other side has never said anything. We have about one party a year new year /summer.
We don't talk loudly,
we don't do diy,
we don't play the radio.
We rarely even have guests over we are quite sad

In fact two houses down are building an extension and that starts early and goes on and on.

I think being able to hear your neighbours walking around is the price you pay for living with thin walls.

We don't hear her because we are not sitting with our ears by the wall looking for something to complain about

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StillStayingClassySanDiego · 09/08/2016 08:29

Ignore her and live your life normally.

Doing DIY is normal as long as it's within reasonable times of the day, having parties is normal as is shutting doors and going up and down stairs.

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ABloodyDifficultWoman · 09/08/2016 08:30

Of course she is being unreasonable - I hope you don't comply with her nonsense? Never give these people a sniff of power - they will use it mercilessly. All you can do it ignore and go about your life because whatever you do will never be right for her.

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IceRoadDucker · 09/08/2016 08:31

Well, there's absolutely no need to slam doors but there IS a need to walk up the stairs. Choose your battles.

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ProfessorPreciseaBug · 09/08/2016 08:33

Every time she says something, make an extra bit of noise..

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TheRealKimmySchmidt63 · 09/08/2016 08:49

Every time she says something, make an extra bit of noise

^^ this

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Funnyface1 · 09/08/2016 09:06

I would make a huge effort with stairs and doors etc when it's very early morning or at night when she might be trying to sleep. The rest of the time you should do what you want as long as you know it's nothing unreasonable or excessive.

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Believeitornot · 09/08/2016 09:07

Maybe that's why the previous owners left.....

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Rosamund1 · 09/08/2016 10:15

Believe - it may be - we are renting btw. It was a he said she said situation. I know the family and they are quite rowdy with three kids so who knows who was being unreasonable.

The thing that got me was complaining about the noise of moving in.