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AIBU to think that this is too much money for BBQ contribution?

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jomidmum Sun 07-Aug-16 11:06:18

Last week some relatives kindly asked us over for a BBQ. We asked what they would like us to take along. They said some chicken kebabs and some burgers. No problem.
BUT then they said that they only consume meat purchased from a certain local butchers shop, and could we please buy it there.
So we did. It cost £25. For 8 burgers and 4 chicken breasts.
AIBU to think that it's not OK to name an expensive shop? Our food budget is £60 a week for 4 of us.
Obviously we'll just move on but I do think it was a bit cheeky.

Rainbowqueeen Sun 07-Aug-16 11:07:48

Definitely cheeky!!

Start getting ready your reasons why you can't go there next time

Missgraeme Sun 07-Aug-16 11:07:56

Just make sure u eat lots and tell them it's champagne from Harrods next time they visit u and need to bring a bottle!!

IcedVanillaLatte Sun 07-Aug-16 11:10:14

Fuck me. £25?

If they want to restrict themselves to one particular shop, fine. Imposing it on everyone else is not fine. If they don't like your food they don't have to eat it. I'd ask them for tips on how to make £35 stretch to your entire week's food shop.

And don't go round there again.

bobbinpop Sun 07-Aug-16 11:12:04

Was it because the meat is free range? If so, it's a very good reason in my opinion.

SirChenjin Sun 07-Aug-16 11:12:06

Rookie mistake. Buy from Asda, pass it off as Artisan Butcher's finest wink


mrsmugoo Sun 07-Aug-16 11:12:35

Yes and no.

I can see your point but I only eat meat of a certain standard and whilst I would never specify a shop for anyone to buy from, I would be disappointed if someone turned up to my house with Tesco value frozen burgers.

karalime Sun 07-Aug-16 11:14:39

'X butchers!? We only eat hand reared organic corn fed wagu beef burgers that we raised ourselves. I can't believe you would eat meat bought at a butchers!

As we don't have any livestock right now, here are some quorn burgers. I'm sure you understand that we cannot possibly eat meat if it's not to our high standards'

Becky546 Sun 07-Aug-16 11:15:12

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

DellaPorter Sun 07-Aug-16 11:16:37

I think if you have guests for a BBQ the host should provide the meat - ask guests to bring drink/salads or dessert.

GreaseIsNotTheWord Sun 07-Aug-16 11:19:24

I think it's weird for someone having a BBQ to ask others to bring meat...meat is central to a BBQ and should be provided by the hosts IMO.

I've asked people to bring drinks before or a salad or icecream, or to grab some extra buns...but i'd fully expect to buy all the meat if I was the one doing a BBQ.

ayeokthen Sun 07-Aug-16 11:22:41

When we do BBQs if someone asks if they can bring something, we usually say something small like rolls, or a side dish. You can't host a BBQ and expect your guests to provide the meat!

acasualobserver Sun 07-Aug-16 11:23:18

Next time you are passing that butcher pop in for a 5p carrier bag - could come in useful if any other pretentious twats invite you to a BBQ.

ElizabethLemon Sun 07-Aug-16 11:26:10

Yanbu. If they want to buy from a specific butcher for whatever reason, that's fine but then they should be buying the meat themselves.

Hrafnkel Sun 07-Aug-16 11:28:45

We love hosting bbqs and only like to eat really good meat. When people ask us what to bring we ask for drinks or puddings. No drama that way.

I prefer hosting tbh because at other people's houses the meat isn't usually as nice.

WorraLiberty Sun 07-Aug-16 11:29:31

Was it because the meat is free range? If so, it's a very good reason in my opinion.

It's not a very good reason at all to expect someone else to pay for it. Especially when their food budget is £60 per week.

It is however a very good reason for the hosts to go and buy it themselves.

Enoughisenough9 Sun 07-Aug-16 11:33:41

Lol at bringing the burgers and chicken kebabs. What are the hosts providing? Burger buns and ketchup? Rude.

RaeSkywalker Sun 07-Aug-16 11:33:44

Yes. Very cheeky. If there's a next time I'd not offer to bring anything, or I'd say "oh lovely, we'll bring a bottle". And hope that they don't demand a very specific bottle 🙄

LonnyVonnyWilsonFrickett Sun 07-Aug-16 11:34:29

Definitely cheeky! And I agree with pps that it's the hosts' job to buy the meat for a BBQ, so double cheeky. I only ever ask my guests to bring salad or bread, or a dessert if they fancy it (I don't really do sweet things).

Enoughisenough9 Sun 07-Aug-16 11:34:39

It's like being asked to dinner, and having to bring the roast beef.

Beeziekn33ze Sun 07-Aug-16 11:36:02

Family are very fond of home made turkey burgers. Low fat turkey mince from Aldi. They've even begun to make them in fact!
Huge cheek to specify the butcher or even to ask for meat. Like previous posters say, it's usually side dishes or a dessert that's asked for. I find myself wondering what they do if asked to someone else's home for a meal or BBQ! I guess they'll either be ferociously guarding their own precious contribution or nibbling an organic lettuce leaf!

Blu Sun 07-Aug-16 11:41:16

Really cheeky!
Especially as you provided far more than your family could eat.
What exactly did they provide?
I would never invite someone for dinner and then ask them to bring the main course. Why is a BBQ any different?

I was thinking about that thread last year where some hard working MN-er hosted a massive BBQ for loads of people, with about 8 different options: lamb, chicken, steak, halloumi, fish, veggie and more....and a guest moaned that she didn't provide sausages and a thread-load of MNers said 'YABU: you expect sausages at a BBQ, won't somebody think of the children?'

Something goes to people's heads in the BBQ season.

Sparklesilverglitter Sun 07-Aug-16 11:42:26

I can understand them buying from 1 butcher, I do the same for high welfare meat but they were being unreasonable to ask a guest to go only to that butcher

Surely you could of brought any meat for yourselves and the DC and you and any others could of happily eaten it. The relatives in question didn't have to touch it

What did the hosts provide?

UnexpectedBaggage Sun 07-Aug-16 11:56:51

Very rude.

ApocalypseSlough Sun 07-Aug-16 11:58:23

Cheeky buggers.
It's fine to use a particular butcher or only serve vegetarian or halal or corn fed or whatever. It's not ok to insist your guests finance it.

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