I'll try and keep this brief.
My dad abandoned me and my mum when I was a baby. He was an alcoholic and a womaniser and from what I understand, he was violent too.
In my culture, daughters and women aren't considered as important as Sons. When I was born, instead of being happy, my father told my mum (who had given birth 10 mins ago, after a 55 hour labour) that he had wanted a son.
Shortly afterwards, he married his girlfriend before even divorcing my mum.
He never paid a penny to help my mum raise me- I'm not originally from the UK, and in my birth country, child support isn't mandatory.
I was a very sick child and we didn't have free healthcare either. He still never paid anything and didn't even visit.
My mum raised me all by herself, she's my hero Paid all my medical bills and for my education.
I've now been in the UK for ten years, I work at a top investment bank and I'm standing on my own two feet all thanks to my mum.
I haven't seen my dad in over 24 years, but I recently found out he has a three year old son that he dotes on.
I don't know why, but this made me feel awful. For all practical purposes, this man is a stranger, and my mum gave me all the love I ever needed.
Then why do I feel so bad?
The rest of my family is pretty horrible too. They made my mum's life hell because she didn't have a husband and they haven't been kind to me either. Some of them have been downright mean to me, ever since I was a baby.
I often ask why?! I was just a child. How can anyone hate an innocent child and be horrible to her?
I rarely let these things bother me, but today I can't seem to stop...
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IsThisEmette · 07/08/2016 05:30
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