Dunno if I should post here, I don't mind it being moved.
My 6 month old DS is a extremely clingy and generally grumpy baby. He's hard work, I don't get much peace but he's otherwise delightful and worth the effort. His cousin who is the same age (but lives closer to my family so sees them more often) has his moments but he's an easier baby. My mum constantly compares the two and it is starting to grate on my nerves.
DM and family live around and hour away so during the week when DH is at work it's just DS and I. Occasionally we/they visit. Recently visited DM by train and bus and the snide comments regarding his clingyness were very hurtful. Playing side by side, it's easy to see and regret how my DS loses out on precious time with his extended family but why do they feel the need to be so negative (it's not just DM who makes comments)? AIBU in thinking that, yes, babies who are exposed to people more often might be less clingy, but some babies are just more clingy by nature? My son cries with his dad who he sees everyday! He'll go to people who look or sound like me (which is weird because I'm standing right there, but I can understand why), or sometimes people who stand and dance with him (poor folk )
We moved because we cannot afford the area where I grew up. We bought our house about an hour away and since being on maternity leave, I gave up my car. I do visit my cousin that lives around me once a week, as well as my MIL who looks after DS's very young cousins (who adore DS). I feel like I am trying to expose DS to family as much as I can during the week. But my DM finds every opportunity to make it known that my son would be less clingy if he were around people (them) more. She'll talk to him and say things like 'yes, you're crying because you don't see people' or 'you've finally come out'. Wtf am I to do with that information, no car and a bloody vital train link that's ceased operations until next spring. I do go out during the week for walks into town, and to the library. The children's center is a ridiculous walking distance away but my DH has said if I needed to go he'd provide taxi fare. I have a workshop Tuesday so that'll be my first time taking up his offer.
Should I bother telling DM to shut up? Also looking for advice. What can I do better for my son?
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JayDot500 · 06/08/2016 23:22
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