My cousin had her DS when she was 21. She's now 22 and has went back to finish her degree which is great! Her mum and dad are very supportive and give her as much help as possible, this help includes taking DS on a Saturday afternoon until Sunday afternoon on a weekly basis so that my cousin can do training related to her degree, recharge, study, have some time with her partner. My cousin's parents are happy to do this and love having their grandchild.
The problem is she doesn't have a good relationship with her partner's mother. She doesn't trust her partner's mother to babysit DS for various reasons i.e partner's mother doesn't respect her, belittled her, has widely different views on parenting/life (believes the woman in the relationship shouldn't have a social life as a mother, that a mother should never feel frustrated with her child, that a man should not lift a hand to help, believes in spanking while cousin doesn't), she won't listen to cousin in any aspect of parenting because of her age. There's a lot more to this but I don't want to add too much detail. It's gotten to the point where partner's mother has taken to calling her a 'part time parent' because of her parents having DS. It would have been easy for my cousin to brush off but this is constant. She's posted on Facebook about my cousin and always has a go at her. It's really getting her down and I suspect she feels insecure because she is a young mother. She feels pressured now to let her partner's mother babysit DS because of all this. Who is BU here? Is she able to salvage the relationship?
AIBU?
About family member being called a 'part time parent'?
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