DD is 14 and moving schools, as a result I realise that she is going over board to cement friendships with local people she knows at both her old and new schools. I totally get that she doesn't want to do loads of family stuff, but this week, i have been in the same room as her for about half an hour a day, tops. She has been out with friends and at sleepovers (2) since Sunday.
I have eaten a meal with her once and cooked for her friends twice. The last 48 hours i haven't seen her at all without a friend being present, beyond 15 minutes over breakfast as she is arranging early starts with her friends.
I have given her £40 in lunch money and fares and provided food for her friends.
then yesterday i i told her about a meal i had planned and asked her friend if it was something that she would eat. I suggested that i then drive them (20 mins each way) to the friend's house where dd was sleeping over. dd just glanced up from her phone and said "fine" then returned to her texting! i just saw a red mist and apologised to the friend but said to dd " i'm sorry dd, but I'm going to have to pull you up on your manners, you need to say thank you and make eye contact when i'm talking to you". dd was obv cross and it was awkward in from of friend, but i cannot bear rudeness just because a friend is present!
then as they were leaving the house, dd said that she planned to go to the beach the next day with the friend. i said that if she was doing that then she needed to take some of her savings to fund any expenses e.g. lunch out as i had given her enough already. she was annoyed about this.
she also was annoyed that i said she would need to take her key as potentially she might have to get a bus back. now, we do have shocking public transport where we are and i would happily pre arrange a pick up but didn't want to be relied upon for a lift at any time of day, without a prior arrangement.
I just feel like dd's attitude has tipped into the taking us for granted/ slightly entitled /presumptious. this is unlike her but she has just totally tuned out of family life this week.
AIBU to have reacted as i did/ feel as i do? i honestly don't mind her being so busy, but she needs to engage with us politely and properly when she is around, not just grunt at us as she is so exhausted from her social life!
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to feel annoyed with 14yo DD- I feel like a I'm running a B&B/ cashpoint
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NoonarAgain · 05/08/2016 13:29
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