It has come up.in conversation that DH thinks you only need to apologise 'if you have done something on purpose'.
My thinking is that you apologise if something you have done negatively affects someone, regardless of the original intention. So, bumping into.someone, forgetting to do something etc. all would have a quick 'oh balls, sorry, I forgot' or something.
By DHs logic you'd either never apologise or if you do, then it means you've set out to do something deliberately, which isn't particularly nice!
The problem is, he knows I think differently so when I try and (gently, not patronisingly or aggressively) probe his stance he gets quite defensive and snappy. It's become an issue as there are times when he has (unintentionally) hurt or upset me or others but doesn't apologise and vehemently states his case for not doing do, thereby turning something small into a bigger disagreement. I'm not suggesting he should constantly apologise and I'm by no means perfect but it just seems unnecessarily confrontational.
Have I got this all wrong?
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lastnightiwenttomanderley · 05/08/2016 06:58
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