That ex pays maintenance!
My friend has been quite supportive through my extremely difficult and abusive divorce. And we were chatting yesterday and I divulged that ex has voluntarily paid maintenance according to the CSA calculator. But, there's a massive ulterior motive for him.
He needs to apply for a Visa based on right to family. And the home office want proof that he sees the children and pays maintenance. So it's in HIS interest to pay a decent amount and pay it on time.
He will be in the visa system for the next 5+ years and will need to show proof for that time frame that he has paid every single week. So I'm guaranteed maintenance for the next 5+ years.
My friend outright said me and my kids are lucky for this and should be grateful to him.
I get that many many women have trouble getting maintenance out of their ex's but I'm not lucky!
It annoyed me that I am supposed to be acting/feeling grateful about this. I am not ungrateful for the money, but this isn't him being a great dad. This is him doing what he has to for himself, again.
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GettingScaredNow · 04/08/2016 08:25
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