Lots of back story, but the long and short of it is that dh wants to go nc with his family over something (in my opinion) relatively minor. I am torn between wanting to support him and his decision (he is clearly very upset) and not wanting this to happen to my family.
The ILs love my children very much, they don't always behave as I would choose them to, but we're all different and that's fine. We don't see that much of them (part of the issue) but the DCs love it when we do. Essentially I disagree with my DH and think it sets a terrible example to the children about how to deal with problems, but I don't see this ever getting resolved as DH's family refuse to talk about difficult subjects (and have previous form for going nc with family members for silly things).
In the interests of not drip feeding info...SIL has always 'needed' lots of help from PIL so sees them all the time, whereas we see them maybe every 5/6 weeks for a brief visit. DH now saying this is the way it's been all his life and doesn't want our children being treated like they are less important than hers, like he feels less important than SIL.
AIBU for wanting to stop this from happening and to bang their heads together?
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To not want to go nc with in-laws?
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newmumintown · 02/08/2016 07:58
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