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AIBU?

To have thought this was really inappropriate? WIBU to have shouted at woman in the supermarket?

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justnotaballetmum · 31/07/2016 20:51

I was doing some gardening today and so obviously had on old clothes. I was wearing black leggings with a bleach stain on the back of them; not a massive stain.

At around 3:30 I realised I needed to get some bits from the supermarket so shot there quickly.

As I was queueing to pay I felt someone GRAB me just below my bottom. I was obviously really startled and turned around in shock and this woman repeatedly slapped at me and I leaped away in alarm, with a look and she said "oh, you have got something on your trousers"

AIBU to think that she was completely, utterly inappropriate? I'm still quite angry to be honest.

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Balletgirlmum · 31/07/2016 20:53

What on earth was she doing? I'd have gone nuts.

RJnomore1 · 31/07/2016 20:54

Did she perhaps think it was an insect?

justdontevenfuckingstart · 31/07/2016 20:55

Well did she grab you or slap you? and if you had turned around what did she then start slapping?
NBU tho I wouldn't like that.

justnotaballetmum · 31/07/2016 20:59

She sort of swatted at me - not exactly a slap but not exactly a grab. If I was in front of you I could demonstrate but I can't explain it too well. It really made me feel angry - you just don't touch people like that!

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PirateFairy45 · 31/07/2016 21:01

She wanted to feel your arse.

Easy.

aginghippy · 31/07/2016 21:01

YANBU inappropriate and bonkers

Glamourgates · 31/07/2016 21:10

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MammaTJ · 31/07/2016 21:13

If this had been a man doing it, all the posters so far would have been shouting sexual assault.

I'm not even sure that it wasn't.

justnotaballetmum · 31/07/2016 21:14

I went a bit shrill and screeched "DON'T touch me!" after some stammered "what are you - excuse - EXCUSE me!"

I wouldn't say sexual assault but it did feel like a violation to be honest.

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gandalf456 · 31/07/2016 21:19

Yes, it was but nothing surprises me about people in supermarkets at all. I work in one and honestly have seen it all.

Glamourgates · 31/07/2016 21:21

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NeedACleverNN · 31/07/2016 21:24

Some people just can't help themselves..

It's like when you see a label poking out of someone's t-shirt.

I'm not excusing the behaviour. It was completely unreasonable to touch you when you could have just pointed it out but maybe she had the imp of perverse moment?

justnotaballetmum · 31/07/2016 21:25

Ooh don't get me started on label tuckers!

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MammaTJ · 31/07/2016 21:26

What is wrong with a tap on the shoulder and an excuse me, before passing on relevant information?

I did this with a lady at the school sports day, tapped her on the shoulder, told her she had a spider on her back and I would remove it, then removed it!

NeedAScarfForMyGiraffe · 31/07/2016 21:26

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MammouthTask · 31/07/2016 21:38

Sexual assault?!? You don't think you've gone a tad too far there?

No she shouldn't have done that but she was also probably really trying to help not realising it was a stain rather than a thing on your leggings.

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justnotaballetmum · 31/07/2016 21:39

It might not have been sexual assault but it wasn't just "oh whoops, mistake!" either. I did feel a bit violated.

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mrsfuzzy · 31/07/2016 21:43

this was not sexual assault, assault yes but certainly not sexual ! i would have mental had someone done this to me !

NeedAScarfForMyGiraffe · 31/07/2016 21:51

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EverySongbirdSays · 31/07/2016 22:05

Well, if she was a woman attracted to women then yes there would be a sexual element sexual assault isn't the exclusive province of men on women, and can even be woman on man on occasion. Creepy and weird regardless

justnotaballetmum · 01/08/2016 09:05

I don't think there was a sexual aspect but I was surprised at how unpleasant it felt to be grabbed without my knowledge or consent. Strange, really :)

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ReginaBlitz · 01/08/2016 09:17

Sorry but this is so funny! Sexual assault I would have laughed tbh. That will teach you to go out in dirty clothes.

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justnotaballetmum · 01/08/2016 09:19

They weren't dirty, just a small bleach stain on the back :) and why does having a small stain make it okay for someone to grab my arse

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ReginaBlitz · 01/08/2016 09:52

She thought you had some weird kind of bleach stain looking bug on your arse, she thought she was doing you s favour.

ExtraHotLatteToGo · 01/08/2016 09:55

It's not assault, sexual or otherwise.

It was simply someone TRYNG to be helpful and seriously missing the mark. She's probably got 10 kids and didn't even think first.

'WTAF - you REALLY cannot do that to people!'

Then really, just forget about it, it's not worth a second thought.

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