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To have thought this was really inappropriate? WIBU to have shouted at woman in the supermarket?

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justnotaballetmum Sun 31-Jul-16 20:51:51

I was doing some gardening today and so obviously had on old clothes. I was wearing black leggings with a bleach stain on the back of them; not a massive stain.

At around 3:30 I realised I needed to get some bits from the supermarket so shot there quickly.

As I was queueing to pay I felt someone GRAB me just below my bottom. I was obviously really startled and turned around in shock and this woman repeatedly slapped at me and I leaped away in alarm, with a shock look and she said "oh, you have got something on your trousers" hmm

AIBU to think that she was completely, utterly inappropriate? I'm still quite angry to be honest.

Balletgirlmum Sun 31-Jul-16 20:53:46

What on earth was she doing? I'd have gone nuts.

RJnomore1 Sun 31-Jul-16 20:54:32

Did she perhaps think it was an insect?

justdontevenfuckingstart Sun 31-Jul-16 20:55:15

Well did she grab you or slap you? and if you had turned around what did she then start slapping?
NBU tho I wouldn't like that.

justnotaballetmum Sun 31-Jul-16 20:59:44

She sort of swatted at me - not exactly a slap but not exactly a grab. If I was in front of you I could demonstrate grin but I can't explain it too well. It really made me feel angry - you just don't touch people like that!

PirateFairy45 Sun 31-Jul-16 21:01:11

She wanted to feel your arse.


aginghippy Sun 31-Jul-16 21:01:21

YANBU inappropriate and bonkers

Glamourgates Sun 31-Jul-16 21:10:33

grin What did you say to her?

MammaTJ Sun 31-Jul-16 21:13:03

If this had been a man doing it, all the posters so far would have been shouting sexual assault.

I'm not even sure that it wasn't.

justnotaballetmum Sun 31-Jul-16 21:14:24

I went a bit shrill and screeched "DON'T touch me!" blush after some stammered "what are you - excuse - EXCUSE me!"

I wouldn't say sexual assault but it did feel like a violation to be honest.

gandalf456 Sun 31-Jul-16 21:19:11

Yes, it was but nothing surprises me about people in supermarkets at all. I work in one and honestly have seen it all.

Glamourgates Sun 31-Jul-16 21:21:36

I forgot to say YANBU!

NeedACleverNN Sun 31-Jul-16 21:24:08

Some people just can't help themselves..

It's like when you see a label poking out of someone's t-shirt.

I'm not excusing the behaviour. It was completely unreasonable to touch you when you could have just pointed it out but maybe she had the imp of perverse moment?

justnotaballetmum Sun 31-Jul-16 21:25:18

Ooh don't get me started on label tuckers!

MammaTJ Sun 31-Jul-16 21:26:24

What is wrong with a tap on the shoulder and an excuse me, before passing on relevant information?

I did this with a lady at the school sports day, tapped her on the shoulder, told her she had a spider on her back and I would remove it, then removed it!

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MammouthTask Sun 31-Jul-16 21:38:01

Sexual assault?!? You don't think you've gone a tad too far there?

No she shouldn't have done that but she was also probably really trying to help not realising it was a stain rather than a thing on your leggings.


justnotaballetmum Sun 31-Jul-16 21:39:41

It might not have been sexual assault but it wasn't just "oh whoops, mistake!" either. I did feel a bit violated.

mrsfuzzy Sun 31-Jul-16 21:43:13

this was not sexual assault, assault yes but certainly not sexual ! i would have mental had someone done this to me ! angry

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EverySongbirdSays Sun 31-Jul-16 22:05:14

Well, if she was a woman attracted to women then yes there would be a sexual element sexual assault isn't the exclusive province of men on women, and can even be woman on man on occasion. Creepy and weird regardless

justnotaballetmum Mon 01-Aug-16 09:05:22

I don't think there was a sexual aspect but I was surprised at how unpleasant it felt to be grabbed without my knowledge or consent. Strange, really smile

ReginaBlitz Mon 01-Aug-16 09:17:06

Sorry but this is so funny! Sexual assault grinI would have laughed tbh. That will teach you to go out in dirty clothes.

justnotaballetmum Mon 01-Aug-16 09:19:08

They weren't dirty, just a small bleach stain on the back smile and why does having a small stain make it okay for someone to grab my arse shock

ReginaBlitz Mon 01-Aug-16 09:52:50

She thought you had some weird kind of bleach stain looking bug on your arse, she thought she was doing you s favour.

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