There is a back story but I don't want to go into all that as I would be typing for a very long time.
To keep it brief, mil hasn't had the most respect for me especially since DD was born. I find her possessive, over whelming, patronising and undermining, all as a result of her remarks, actions and the way she has treated me since DD has been born.
I didn't want her to have DD when I returned to work because of this behaviour. It's trial and error atm.I've been back at work for 10 weeks and already there have been a couple of issues.
The latest is, and this is where I need some advice from you guys as to if im over reacting; my DD is 11 months and she's been giving her fruit in large lumps instead of thin slices like I asked.
One of the weeks I sent DD with a box of strawberrys that I had cut up into thin slices. She only has 4 teeth all at the top, so i bear that in mind when preparing her food.
A couple of weeks later I go round and dd has an entire strawberry in her hand. Mil Appears to be gloating when she explains she's already eaten 2 of these while strawberrys and one cut in half.(still quite big)I was a bit shocked as id previously sent round strawberrys sliced up as she knew, I also told her that she can eat fruit now but that it must be cut into fine slices. I told her that I always cut strawberrys up and don't give them to her whole. She nodded and that was that.
Exactly one week later I go round and I collect DD at the same time each week. Just as I walk through the door DD has largely cut bananas on the highchair table. Mil slices the banana info circles but not thin ones, so these were quite big chunks. Again I was shocked as she knows I've told her DD can have fruit as long as it's in thin slices. She's also been at my house and commented on the fact that I half and then quarter banana slices for my DD to eat. Also as I told her a couple of weeks previously that strawberrys shouldnt be given whole as I am worried about choking I thought she wouldve listened.
I told my mil that DD can eat cucumbers as long as the skin is removed and it is in thin slices. My SIL works in a nursery and is very opinionated, mil and her are best of friends and always talk to each other so I know this has been discussed. Today mil dropped into a conversation that she gave DD cucumber in cubes the other day. I know this was said deliberately because SIL is sitting there and then sil is like 'yeah she can eat what ever u eat now can't she, she's got teeth'.
I am irritated that she isn't listening to my instructions with regards to how to offer fruit and veg as finger foods etc. Is it me?! I don't think dd should be eating large chunks of stuff, I think it's actually quite dangerous and potentially a choking hazard. I know every one has a different take on this.
My friend gives her 10 month old cherry tomatoes whole and she has 1 tooth, it horrifies me but I dont say anything because I'm Not the parent.
I feel she should be listening to what I say! Instead she deliberately isn't.
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Mil not listening to me re DD's food
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Ohsotired123 · 30/07/2016 22:14
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