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AIBU to only take DS1 To Florida ?

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spornersunited Sat 30-Jul-16 18:41:43

DS1 is 14 and due to Building works, his school will be closed for an extra week at the end of the summer break.
I have found an amazing deal for 7 nights in Florida (less than £500 each) departing from our local airport.

DS isn't that bothered about doing all the parks he just wants to go to America,do some shopping,and visit universal studios !

AIBU to leave DS2 age 6 at home with DP ? - DP cannot take anymore annual leave and I really don't think that taking a six year old all that way for only 7 nights is a great idea plus the fact he'd be missing school and to be honest we cannot afford for more than two of us to go anyway

I will add that we have just come back from a 2 week family holiday abroad so its not like DS2 has missed out on a holiday and we are planning to do a California road trip the year after next so would do the Disney thing then.

If it was anywhere else I'd be fine with not taking DS2 but I'm not sure if its right to take one child to Disney and leave the other behind ?

NickNacks Sat 30-Jul-16 18:44:01

I wouldn't personally but each to their own.

Are you going to Disney or not? Your Op says both.

Mycraneisfixed Sat 30-Jul-16 18:44:05

You can take the 6yo another time.

CinderellaFant Sat 30-Jul-16 18:44:09

Personally I wouldn't, if I couldn't afford for us all to go then none of us would. I would MAYBE consider leaving him behind if he was 1 or 2 but definitely not a 7 year old. Sorry , suspect that's not what you wanted to hear

LunaMay Sat 30-Jul-16 18:44:52

I wouldn't, why can't 14yr old wait till the road trip? Put the money into savings so he can do even more shopping then?

Bearbehind Sat 30-Jul-16 18:45:07


6 years old is a perfect age for Disney, although I'm slightly confused as you said DS 1 wasn't bothered about the parks then said you were taking him to Disney.

You really can't treat them so differently. It's not Ds2 fault his school isn't shut.

NapQueen Sat 30-Jul-16 18:46:35

Well I think getting away for the week the two of you somewhere cheap sounds great. But I'd not bother going all that way for a week and not to do they whole disney/universal thing.

Why not do a week somewhere else

MatildaTheCat Sat 30-Jul-16 18:50:08

Might be cheap because it's moving into hurricane season? grin

I wouldn't. Ds1 should be in school so I would organise some outings that will benefit his education. At 14 there must be things that interest him but would bore his little brother.

SaucyJack Sat 30-Jul-16 18:51:48

I think it would be a bit mean to take a teen to Disneyland, and leave a 6 year old at home. Yup.

FlaviaAnsell Sat 30-Jul-16 18:52:30

Go for it. You can have a much more 'grown up' trip if you're not having to cater for a six year old. Siblings don't always have to do the same things at the same time, especially when there's quite a big age gap, as you have.

You or your dp can do something special just with ds2 next year if you feel you need to even things out.

DragonsEggsAreAllMine Sat 30-Jul-16 18:54:50

I wouldn't either, children should be treated the same. I wouldn't leave DH out either if going with children.

budgiegirl Sat 30-Jul-16 18:55:53

I wouldn't, I couldn't take one of my children to Florida, and not the other. It might be ok if it was something that my younger child had no interest in, and I promised to take him away on his own some other time. But I don't know many 6 year olds that wouldn't want to go to Florida. It would seem mean to me.

Also, I do think that if you can't afford to all go, then you shouldn't just take one child to save money.

Eve Sat 30-Jul-16 18:57:22

I would, go and have a great time together.

GreaseIsNotTheWord Sat 30-Jul-16 18:57:45

You don't just happen across an amazing florida deal. You'd have to look for it confused

Personally I think it's really odd...if ds1 was off school for a week and I had the week off work, it wouldn't even occur to me to bugger off to florida with him and leave ds2 and dh at home.

Don't get it myself.

lljkk Sat 30-Jul-16 18:58:47

I did something very similar with my teen (left other DC at home)... but not Disneyland. OP says her son isn't bothered about Disney, so what about no Disney?

GreaseIsNotTheWord Sat 30-Jul-16 18:59:35

Siblings don't always have to do the same things at the same time

I agree. Mine have different dinners sometimes. Sometimes one goes to the cinema and the other one goes to the park. One does football, one does rugby. Great.

I don't take one to Florida and leave the other one at home though.

MrsTerryPratchett Sat 30-Jul-16 19:00:02

I can't imagine going to Florida without a 6 year old. And I think Disney is shit.

AGirlCalledJohnny Sat 30-Jul-16 19:03:37

I'm on the fence - helpful, I know! I think what I'd do is take him for a few days to midweek to a more "grown up" place like Paris or something. He's getting to the age where it's just getting harder to hang out with him and I love having one on one time with my kids. He's got California to look forward too. And trust me, by the time you've spent even 1 day at Universal, you'll be out $$$$

ExtraHotLatteToGo Sat 30-Jul-16 19:04:18

I would, it's not often you get the opportunity to spend quality time with an older child like this, when you have a younger one.

The 6 year old probably has no/little idea of what Florida means, it could just as well be Worthing.

The 14 year old is old enough to have some sensitivity around the younger one.

You will end up taking DS 2 on holiday when DS1 is doing exams/at uni/left home.

lollipop28 Sat 30-Jul-16 19:06:58

I think yabu. I wouldn't take one and leave one at home, maybe if your ds was 3 or younger. But otherwise yabu

throckenholt Sat 30-Jul-16 19:09:06

I would be tempted to make it a special treat with DS1 (without Disney though !) - given he is 14 and you probably won't have many more holidays with him. DS2 is only 6 - you have years ahead of you where he will get holidays where it is just him and not with his brother.

Just be honest about this being a special one off - and DS2 will get his turn later.

There must be lots of things DS2 doesn't get to do yet because he is too young, that DS1 does do.

EverySongbirdSays Sat 30-Jul-16 19:09:08

If my Mum had done this to me when I was 6, I'd have cried for days.

Very mean.

bumblefeline Sat 30-Jul-16 19:09:35

I wouldn't do it. I could not enjoy myself one little bit knowing my other child was left at home.

Whatabloodyidiot1 Sat 30-Jul-16 19:09:43

No chance I'd leave my 6 year old at home. Sounds like you really want to go and you're lookkng for excuses to justify it. If you can't afford for everyone to go then wait til next year instead. Very unfair.

Becky546 Sat 30-Jul-16 19:09:57

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