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Anyone else who's never had a row with their partner?

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WibblyWobblyJellyHead Fri 29-Jul-16 15:55:05

Dh and I have been together for ten years, married for six. We've never had a row and very rarely (like once a year) have anything resembling cross words.

It's the only relationship I've ever had like this, and I used to think that rows equalled passion. I don't think that any more.

Our marriage is far from perfect (I've got MH problems, overspend and make stupid rash decisions so im not easy to live with) but he is my best friend and I love, respect and fancy him so having a screaming match or being mean just wouldn't happen.

Anyone else? I haven't put this in Relationships because I don't think it's fair, so I'll shoehorn an AIBU in. AIBU to never row with dh?

CaveMum Fri 29-Jul-16 15:58:00

DH and I don't really row either. We've never raised our voices at each other, though we are both sulkers! We've been together 14.5 years and married for 8.

Maybebabybee Fri 29-Jul-16 15:58:09

Together four years, nearly, one DS. No arguments yet!

Both of us hate confrontation. I have a tendency to be very passive aggressive which I don't like at all.

But to be fair I don't think w've ever wound each other up enough to row.

He's a kind, gentle man.

Hygellig Fri 29-Jul-16 16:02:58

We've been togerher 10 years and married for 7 and have never really rowed although have occasionally snapped at each other (I'm much more guilty of that than DH). My parents used to argue frequently and loudly and I hated it.

KC225 Fri 29-Jul-16 16:35:09

You lot need to get your memory tested

SnugglySnerd Fri 29-Jul-16 16:37:54

I've never rowed with DH in 9 years together. We snap at each other sometimes, usually when tired but we are not confrontational people and it's never escalated into a shouting match.

operaha Fri 29-Jul-16 16:39:56

Nope, we don't disagree about much at all.... married, been together 3.5 years....

Salmotrutta Fri 29-Jul-16 16:42:36

Married 30 odd years and yes, we do argue.

Love a good argument I do.

Maybebabybee Fri 29-Jul-16 16:42:50

why KC? confused

Cutecat78 Fri 29-Jul-16 16:43:00

We row a LOT.

Then we make up grin

AppOrNoApp Fri 29-Jul-16 16:43:17

I didn't think you people existed in real life confused

Maybebabybee Fri 29-Jul-16 16:44:32

What's with all the "you people"!!

Sammysquiz Fri 29-Jul-16 16:46:56

Together for 10 years, married for 7 of them, 2 DC, and never had a proper argument. We've disagreed about things of course, but never screamed or shouted, or said shitty things to each other. He's very kind, calm and lovely!

ootsideinbacktaefront Fri 29-Jul-16 16:48:14

So do you agree on everything? My pil don't argue but it's because he always gets his own way. Surely you have to fight your corner sometimes grin

LineyReborn Fri 29-Jul-16 16:48:24

But I think you can not have screaming rows and still be unhappy, I guess.

Salmotrutta Fri 29-Jul-16 16:49:54

An argument doesn't have to be screaming, shouting or saying shitty things to each other!

Disagreements are a form of argument - just not "shouty" argument.

HeyMacWey Fri 29-Jul-16 16:50:08

We rarely row - probably only a handful of times in over 18 years.

Occasional disagreements when we're both tired and cranky but most of the time we're on the same page and have the same outlook and approach on life.

Artandco Fri 29-Jul-16 16:52:02

Nope, never argued in 10 years either.

We either agree or if we don't agree we just talk anything over until a decision is made in a Normal conversation type manner

Friends Argue all the time, I would hate to live like that. And my children were terrified they first heard two adults shouting at each other

gabsdot Fri 29-Jul-16 16:52:02

DH and I have been married for nearly 22 years. We didn't argue at all for probably around 10 years, then the kids started to arrive and since then we occasionally disagree, mainly about the kids.
DH never looses his temper. I do though and have been known to shout and slam doors but we've never had a screaming, swearing, name calling row.
We're both pretty easy going and tend to agree about most things. We're also both very forgiving and good at compromise.

MarkRuffaloCrumble Fri 29-Jul-16 16:52:39

What?! How can you manage to never argue? I'm impressed but slightly sceptical hmm

Does nobody ever snap when they are tired or complain when the other one leaves their shit out all over the place etc?

Maybebabybee Fri 29-Jul-16 16:54:50

no we often disagree but we don't shout at each other or get really annoyed.

I'm not saying this is a virtue, I would actually like to be able to do confrontation. Not necessarily with DP - with anyone.

My ex and I argued constantly however and I hated it.

DeadGood Fri 29-Jul-16 16:55:39

We were like this until children came.

I thought we were great at co-operating and communicating but it turns out we had just not had anything to disagree about before.

CoraPirbright Fri 29-Jul-16 16:55:52

We never argue. Occasionally get testy with each other but thats it. It isn't because we are never cross with each other but because I think we are just appalling at rowing. Dh has a terrifying temper and I am crap because I just shake and cry instead when angry and then cannot feel normal with that person for ages afterwards. I have never really argued with anyone. Suits us <shrugs>

Maybebabybee Fri 29-Jul-16 16:59:09

I'm the same cora

I can't get angry without crying

bobbymc Fri 29-Jul-16 17:00:45

No big rows here either. DH is too easy going.

We disagree, but don't row. No argument has ever been won by shouting has it?

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