Apparently I'm tight for not letting DD have a yoghurt instead of her tea!

(111 Posts)
TheUnsullied Wed 27-Jul-16 16:55:46

She's 2.3. It's a tea she's eaten many times before and a favourite of mine because of the veg hiding potential...chilli con carne with some wholemeal pita bread. She normally wolfs it. She decided not to even touch it, which is fine.

5 minutes later she's asked for a yoghurt. I've said no. If she'd eaten any of her tea she could have had one but she's not having one instead of a meal. I've given her tea back to her and a tantrum has ensued.

I think this is fairly run of the mill with a toddler. DFriend is making out that it's cruel to not give a yoghurt to her because she's not eaten.

Enjoyingthepeace Wed 27-Jul-16 16:57:47

2.3 years old.
Normal wolfs it down.
Didn't fancy it today, but does fancy a yoghurt.
Don't know about you, but sometimes I have days where I don't fancy something i usually relish. No rhyme or reason.

So. Yep, I think YABU

GeoffreysGoat Wed 27-Jul-16 16:58:10

Short term it's mean. Long term it teaches her valuable skills about healthy eating and not wasting food.

Ihatechoosingnames Wed 27-Jul-16 16:59:42

If my DS (same as as your DD) doesn't eat his dinner he gets it given back to him half an hour later. If he still doesn't want it he gets a bit of toast. I think not giving her anything is a bit mean tbh, she's 2. Sometimes you just don't fancy dinner

TheUnsullied Wed 27-Jul-16 17:00:59

And what about when she doesn't fancy the other healthy teas she gets for the next week and asks for cake instead Enjoying?

QuiteLikely5 Wed 27-Jul-16 17:01:25

If the child was older I'd say good idea but she's only two and I'd say let her have the yoghurt. It's hot today too so she might WA t something cool

Enjoyingthepeace Wed 27-Jul-16 17:02:31

Then you deal with it then. But as a one off. 2.3 and usually wolfs it down, yep, I'd definitely give her the yoghurt.

As I write this my two are scoffing a plate of broccoli and carrots. I'm not kidding! So my relaxed stance has worked for me

FloatyFlo Wed 27-Jul-16 17:03:00

If my dd doesn't eat her favourite dinner/lunch/tea that she would normally wolf down, it's a sure sign she is coming down with something.

Enjoyingthepeace Wed 27-Jul-16 17:03:14

She's 2.3 Op. Learning lessons etc, not really even on her radar yet

10storeylovesong Wed 27-Jul-16 17:03:17

I made chilli in the slow cooker this morning. The day then became warmer and I don't fancy it so I've had a lighter tea. I suppose I should have just gone to bed hungry...

TheUnsullied Wed 27-Jul-16 17:03:37

I haven't not given her anything though Ihate. She's been given her tea back. If she refuses that and is hungry later I'll offer her toast or similar. Not sugary treats. I really saw this as fairly basic parenting, but it looks like I could be wrong confused

Enjoyingthepeace Wed 27-Jul-16 17:03:54

Agreed Floaty

Enjoyingthepeace Wed 27-Jul-16 17:04:25

She's 2.3 and usually eats well.
Cut her some slack!

SteviebunsBottrittrundle Wed 27-Jul-16 17:04:57

I would offer her something else if she hasn't eaten as she is still so little. But then, you know her a lot better than I do.

If it was my DD, (who in fairness is only 19mo), I'd probably give her some yoghurt, toast, cereal or something. It's not like she's asking for cake or crisps.

LaContessaDiPlump Wed 27-Jul-16 17:05:00

I'd do the same as you op - 2.3 is old enough to be pushing boundaries deliberately IMO. Stand firm!

SteviebunsBottrittrundle Wed 27-Jul-16 17:07:56

What about plain yoghurt or do you only have the sugary sort? She might just want something cold as pps say.

CMOTDibbler Wed 27-Jul-16 17:08:20

I'd do the same as you OP. You aren't serving the chilli up for the next 4 days and starving her after all!

Enjoyingthepeace Wed 27-Jul-16 17:10:57

Dh will be having marinated salmon and new potatoes. Usually my favourite. I'm not in the mood, so going to have natural yoghurt and raspberries. Pretty sure next time I do the salmon dish, I will be salivating at the prospect.
We're not robots!

Smurfnoff Wed 27-Jul-16 17:12:19

Is a yoghurt really a 'sugary treat'? It's not as if she wants Monster Munch followed by Rowntree's Randoms.

Thebookswereherfriends Wed 27-Jul-16 17:13:01

I'm with you op. If she really doesn't fancy the chilli, then I would offer a banana and a bit of bread and butter, but I wouldn't give a sugary yoghurt. A yoghurt is unlikely to fill her up for long and she'll be asking for something else.

TheUnsullied Wed 27-Jul-16 17:13:33

She's definitely a boundary pusher Contessa grin she'd be at it for weeks if she caught on that having a tantrum meant there was a chance she could pick her favourite treats for tea.

whifflesqueak Wed 27-Jul-16 17:14:39

I'd do the same as you op.

if it's something cold she wants, she can have her dinner with a glass of milk.

I have one the same age and I refuse to relent when he throws food related tantrums. it just makes it hard to have nice treat foods in the house at all.

harshbuttrue1980 Wed 27-Jul-16 17:16:37

Most kids' yogurts are filled with added sugar. I wouldn't give a child junk food after they have turned down a meal, it just encourages the same behaviour in future. They only get the sugary treat after they've eaten the nutritious meal. However, I wouldn't let a child go hungry either, and would offer toast with peanut butter or a banana.

TheUnsullied Wed 27-Jul-16 17:17:01

No plain yoghurt in at the mo Stevie but I've tried swapping it out before now. Plain yoghurt most certainly doesn't cut it for her, she won't touch it once she realises what it is.

imwithspud Wed 27-Jul-16 17:19:55

Yanbu, my dd is a little older (3.10) and I've always had this approach. She's the kind of child who would get given toast/yogurt/etc instead of dinner once, and then expect it every time instead of her dinner and throw an almighty strop to boot. So it's better for everyone to nip it in the bud. Unless she's poorly, she eats what she's given (and sometimes we do ask her what she wants), there's always at least one thing on her plate that she likes. Seems to work well for us.

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