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To go away while off sick?

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eggpoacher Wed 27-Jul-16 16:41:44

I'm off with depression and burnout. Can't cope with being around people, the phone ringing, answering the door, anything unexpected causes stress. My GP has signed me off for 6 weeks (and says that from listening to me, that might not be the end of this).
I want to take myself off camping in the middle of nowhere and take a complete break, but my colleague/friend thinks I shouldn't do that as people will think I'm taking advantage and I'm not really ill.
I feel I need this. I don't believe that the only way to be depressed is hiding under the duvet all day. AIBU to go?

mouldycheesefan Wed 27-Jul-16 16:46:01

It's fine. Any dr would say that a holiday would help someone with stress and depression. I work in HR lots of people off with depression go on holiday for a rest. We don't expect to see Facebook pics of them dancing on tables but camping in a field is fine. It sounds boring though!

BuntyFigglesworthSpiffington Wed 27-Jul-16 16:46:03

Surely if you're suffering from depression and burnout taking time out to be alone and recharge is the sensible thing to do. Tell your friend that not all medicine comes in a bottle.

HeyMacWey Wed 27-Jul-16 16:46:10

Go away - it'll do you the world of good.

You are not well enough to work - that doesn't mean the rest of your life goes on hold.

How would work even know what you're doing if you didn't tell your colleague /friend?

x2boys Wed 27-Jul-16 16:46:37

Just because your off sick doesnt mean you cant go away if it would be good for your mental health , i would avoid facebook though and posting lots of updates.

DollyBarton Wed 27-Jul-16 16:47:19

Go! Life is too short to give a shit what other people think. I wouldn't Facebook a load of pics of you having a nice time but it would be good for you so that is more than enough reason to go.

allegretto Wed 27-Jul-16 16:47:20

Check whether your contract allows you to do this. Mine doesn't. I have to stay in for certain hours each day and they can send someone round to check and fire you if you're out! (I work abroad though - don't know if they do this in the UK).

Cutecat78 Wed 27-Jul-16 16:47:39

People do it all the time where I work.

bibliomania Wed 27-Jul-16 16:47:45

Sounds like an excellent thing to do. Do NOT put photos on social media though (or tweet or anything else) - it could be misinterpreted. If you want to get away from it all, it doesn't sound like you intend to anyway.

KittyLaRoux Wed 27-Jul-16 16:47:54

When i had depression my gp actually advised a holiday and to socialise as much as possible so not to isolate myself. He also advised the gym as a way of creating happy hormones but i am allergic wink

I wouldnt worry what others think depression is much more complex than a bug.

DollyBarton Wed 27-Jul-16 16:48:29

Ps. Your friend doesn't sound like a great friend to be honest.

Cutecat78 Wed 27-Jul-16 16:49:01

It can be considered part of your recovery.

acasualobserver Wed 27-Jul-16 16:49:12

I think it's fine, in fact a good idea for someone in your situation. There are perhaps some holidays that might look a bit off - Butlins or Club 18-30 perhaps - but some solitude and peace would be totally justified. You're too ill to work, not too ill to go camping. Anyway, as long as you don't do any paid work while your off sick I don't think there's much anyone can say or do.

BorpBorpBorp Wed 27-Jul-16 16:49:33

YANBU, I would go, but I would keep quiet about it. It is an unfortunate reality that some people think depression isn't real and that people who are signed off for mental health reasons are skiving. I would just go and not tell your friend.

acasualobserver Wed 27-Jul-16 16:50:36

Sorry, x-posted with half of MN!

WhooooAmI24601 Wed 27-Jul-16 16:51:13

It sounds as though a break would do you good. You can't feel guilty for trying to feel better, so go ahead.

eggpoacher Wed 27-Jul-16 16:52:10

Aw thank you all, no one in real life is this kind to me, people just think I'm a liability because I can't work smile

BuntyFigglesworthSpiffington Wed 27-Jul-16 16:52:56

I have to stay in for certain hours each day and they can send someone round to check and fire you if you're out!

Crumbs! shock

ReallyShouldKnowBetterAtMyAge Wed 27-Jul-16 16:54:21

I think a break away sounds like a really good idea to aid your recovery although I wouldn't call camping relaxing grin

Hope you start to feel better soon flowers

mouldycheesefan Wed 27-Jul-16 16:55:25

Fresh air, stars at night, toasting marshmallows over the fire, reading books. Go for it. It can only be positive for your recovery. Enjoy 💐

TheNaze73 Wed 27-Jul-16 16:58:20

I agree for certain however, just KIV the feelings of others. One of my team at work was posting selfies on FB whilst off sick in Lanzarote & it caused a lot of resentment from the others who were covering her. Sure you won't plaster every move on social media, just a word of caution.
Have a great time

Scarydinosaurs Wed 27-Jul-16 16:59:34

People would convalesce by the sea in years gone by. I think it's an excellent idea.

redhat Wed 27-Jul-16 16:59:55

i'm an employment lawyer. Its perfectly acceptable to go on holiday whilst you're off sick. in fact, if you've booked the annual leave and then you have a medical certificate covering your absence then you should get the annual leave back too.

katsmumx Wed 27-Jul-16 17:00:30

I would say go, it sounds like you need space and time away from everyday life. PP is right, not all medicines are packaged.

FWIW I love your idea. Currently next door one side is laying a patio, the other side is doing up a camper van and at work, the flat upstairs is having a loft conversion.

Yes, your idea is great!!!

Babyroobs Wed 27-Jul-16 17:02:03

I agree that's it's fine if done discreetly. I have coleaugues who have posted pictures of themselves on hen weekends etc whilst off sick and it does cause resentment.

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