Split with husband year and half ago, I live in Scotland now (inherited my parents home) he is really far south in England near his immediate family. He is an arse, physically & emotionally abused me for years, never hurt kids ever though. Was very hard time making the move away, especially with kids, Divorce just finalising now family court ordered me full custody with him no contact or visitation as judge said he was 'unstable', interdict in place he is not allowed near our home, he facetimes kids every day which is fine with me. Judge said if kids want to see him and in future if I'm ok with it then it's my call really. I told grandparents they can see kids anytime no problem but what seems to happen is i'm the one driving kids south and picking them up with no help from them? I'm only working p/t so I can be there for kids and no childcare etc and I get £20 a week maintenance from ex for kids. So they expect me to drive south (8hours) and back again and stay over in a hotel so they can see the kids, without giving me a fuel contribution...I am under no obligation to let them see the kids but I feel it's really important they see their family, and I know the grandparents take kids to see their father etc which to be honest I'm ok with as long as he doesn't bother me, but I just can't afford this any more, they know my financial situation and say the journey here is too far for them sooo...do I say either help or your not seeing them or if you want to see them you come here? Then they won't see their dad,,, ps the family are a bit dim so perhaps I need to spell it out to them? What would you do?
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