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To feel I've "grown out" of this friend.

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lastqueenofscotland Mon 25-Jul-16 14:31:19

I am in my mid... Ok late twenties and most of my friends have obviously quietend down a lot in the last few years, a few marriages a few kids etc. Except one...

She seems to be forever aggrieved about something, and never in the wrong...
She rang me to whinge about her estate agents looking for sympathy, turned out she's massively overdue on rent and they are chasing her.
Got a disciplinary at work the other week basically for going out in the middle of the week and getting very drunk and calling in sick the next day on more than one occasion, didn't talk about anything else when we were at a catch up with a group and then got aggrieved when we said actually she was really out of order.
Had a massive fall out with her next door neighbour after having a party that went on till 5am and the lady next door got upset that her kids hadn't slept and she genuinely thought the lady was out of order as it was a Saturday night.
Constant whinges about money (to the extent she won't pay her rent) despite going out 3/4 times a week spending £30+ at a time and ordering a take away at least 4 times a week.
The worst is she goes out frequently and has unprotected sex, frequent pregnancy scares etc, wants a huge amount of sympathy we will tell her to maybe look at going on the pill/implant etc to which she is all "no I don't want to put on weight."

I just find it outrageously immature, attention seeking and I'm just sick of it, I feel we are too old to be doing that crap, so do most of our mutual friends!
Aibu to find it fucking infuriating, and to stop humouring her and giving her the time of day?!

KeemaNaanAndCurryOn Mon 25-Jul-16 14:34:51

She's not really a friend is she.

People move on, and it sounds like she's making life choices that you don't agree with, so move along.

acasualobserver Mon 25-Jul-16 15:44:31

Yes, stop humouring her. She sounds the sort that won't be interested in a critical friend and your problem will be solved.

YorkieDorkie Mon 25-Jul-16 15:47:48

Ugh how boring. Ditch the bitch, she sounds like a high maintenance nightmare.

LadyMonicaBaddingham Mon 25-Jul-16 15:57:56

Distance and civility are your best bets, I think...

BeMorePanda Mon 25-Jul-16 16:20:14

Surround yourself with lovely people is a great life motto.

Your friend could well live her entire life this way, never changing or growing as a person - it's astonishing but it does happen.

It's OK for you to move on from her and associate with different people. You don't need permission.

happypoobum Mon 25-Jul-16 16:22:12

To be honest it sounds like she has a problem with alcohol. Every single one of the issues you described links back to that - too hungover to work, drunken late night parties, spending all her money on booze at the expense of rent, too drunk to cook and spending money on takeaways when pissed, unprotected/dangerous sex with strangers on nights out.

I would try an intervention and tell her you think her relationship with alcohol is unhealthy. She will probably run a mile from you and you will be spared distancing yourself from her.

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