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...to be annoyed that she announced this?

(189 Posts)
Stylest Sun 24-Jul-16 14:03:48

I had DS, 2 days ago. We told our close friends & family. One of our close friends put it on Facebook, with the picture we sent her, with his full name, etc. Then at the end "congratulations (then my name tagged) & (DH's name tagged)"...

I then got floods of texts, calls, messages, comments on the post, etc. I'm gutted. I wanted to announce him. I wanted to tell people his name, etc.

AIBU to feel annoyed, or am I being a bit sensitive?

Mstu Sun 24-Jul-16 14:05:57

YANBU - happened to me too, devastating, such a special time and announcement, which should rightly come from the proud parents.

TartanTrousers Sun 24-Jul-16 14:06:42

YANBU - it really irks me when I see someone stealing the show in this way. I'm certain people don't do it to be malicious in anyway, they must just get over excited but it's so selfish!

Floggingmolly Sun 24-Jul-16 14:06:56

I'd be annoyed; but why did you send one person photo ahead of everybody else? She probably assumed that everybody had been told at more or less the same time. Odd thing to do (for both of you).

Kangamum Sun 24-Jul-16 14:07:36

Yanbu! I would def have wrote on that status,

'Thank you for your congratulations X, shame we couldn't announce this ourselves when we were ready to, to be blunt this wasn't your news to share and you know it. Bad form.

PleaseGetOffTheTableDarling Sun 24-Jul-16 14:08:33

YANBU. My sil did this to us with both of our DCs despite being asked not to. I've never really managed to forgive that! (Although obviously life goes on!).

Congratulations on your DS, at least you got to announce him yourself on here smile flowers

MarkRuffaloCrumble Sun 24-Jul-16 14:09:50

I would have presumed that after 2 days announcements would have been made to anyone who mattered. I think YAB a bit U - I'm sure she didn't want to steal anyone's thunder, just wanted to congratulate you.

flowersbrewcake for you - congratulations!!

hazeimcgee Sun 24-Jul-16 14:11:39



Even if she thought the whole world knew, a quick check of FB would indicate you hadn't posted a pic and therefore it was inappopriate to do so

fizzingmum Sun 24-Jul-16 14:11:50

I had my baby this morning and not been feeling g too well. Told my mum but thought I would tell the rest of my family when I had a chance to snooze first. I've already had congratulations from my sister that I hadn't had chance to tell myself. Thanks Mum! angry
This was despite me specifically telling her not to share my news just last week! Guess who is bottom of the line for a visit now!

branofthemist Sun 24-Jul-16 14:11:56

She was unreasonable to announce the birth.

But are you actually saying that after 2 days some people don't know?

People who are important enough you want to tell them individually?


BeckyMcDonald Sun 24-Jul-16 14:12:06

God I hate these limelight-stealers. My SIL has done this twice now. I wouldn't mind as much if it were actually someone we liked but we don't really get along with her because she's a complete bitch and I'm not even friends with her on FB.

WellErrr Sun 24-Jul-16 14:12:13

YANBU. she's a tit and I'd tell her.

Costacoffeeplease Sun 24-Jul-16 14:12:47

I think if you wanted to announce him, then you should have done so

JuanTime Sun 24-Jul-16 14:14:03

Congratulations on new baby. Yes I'd be bit peeved too.
Two days after giving birth I was still wearing paper pants and didn't know if it was new year or New York never mind thinking I'd better get on with a fb,Twitter announcement. However, given she is a good friend I imagine she was excited at the good news

Wheredidthesummergo Sun 24-Jul-16 14:14:44

You know you can set Facebook to not post things you're tagged in until you approve it? If you're sensitive about posts you need to adjust your settings! I think she jumped the gun a bit, but not by much - even not very close people have managed to send a text out to all interested quicker than two days!
Try to forget about it and enjoy your newborn

BeenThereTooSEL Sun 24-Jul-16 14:16:05

My fucking MIL did this. I'm still fuming a year on

DerelictMyBalls Sun 24-Jul-16 14:16:54

It was unreasonable of her to share the photo.

But I would have assumed after two days that everyone important would have been told.

JuanTime Sun 24-Jul-16 14:17:24

"she's a tit and I'd tell her " lol so going for the diplomatic approach
As new mum I'd not be telling anyone they were a tit in case I needed some help etc

Stylest Sun 24-Jul-16 14:17:41

I sent to people I wanted to, within 3 hours of him being born, I have work friends, etc. That I didn't send the individual text to, no and then friends from school who I didn't either, I was going to post that on Facebook myself, once I had gotten out of hospital hmm I don't see how that's taking too long? I wanted to be out of hospital.

Amanda89x Sun 24-Jul-16 14:18:13

Yanbu I would be fuming as well! Congratulations on the baby btw!

DragonsEggsAreAllMine Sun 24-Jul-16 14:18:46

YABU, it was two days later. Anybody important should have known by then.

Apart from immediate family, do people really care who tells who a baby hs arrived safely? Babies are only important to close family, it's not a unique thing as thousands are born daily.

Dairybanrion Sun 24-Jul-16 14:18:52

Enjoy your beautiful healthy baby. flowers

sillibillie Sun 24-Jul-16 14:18:54


Bit late for this??

sillibillie Sun 24-Jul-16 14:19:23

Congratulations by the way. I had something very similar with my wedding pictures!

Floggingmolly Sun 24-Jul-16 14:20:04

To be fair; she had no reason to suspect she was "announcing" anything. The child was two days old, she'd been sent a picture... Why would you assume you were the only one in the world bar the parents who knew? confused
This is what happens when you release news in dribs and drabs. Why didn't you just sent the photo to everyone? It was hardly an onerous task

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