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Partner's neighbour went apeshit at me last week and I'm not sure if I should do anything else

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WhingySquirrel Fri 22-Jul-16 00:26:52

I stay with my partner usually one night per week, and visit during the week sometimes. She lives in HA housing (not sure if this is relevant). I usually park sort of in between hers and her next door neighbour's house so as not to block her drive (her NDN doesn't have a drive or a car).

Anyway I pulled up last Saturday and her NDN came out, (I THINK from what my partner told me later) drunk, screaming and swearing at my partner who had just opened the door for me so was on her drive, and then came to my car door as I was still in the car, screaming and swearing 'DO NOT EFFING PARK HERE IS THAT CLEAR MY EFFING DAUGHTER HAS TO PARK SOMEWHERE etc etc' . I didn't say much other than I didn't know there was a problem and that she had never asked me not to park there but now she had, I would move the car across the road.

She also made references to my job and how she didn't want (don't want to out myself!) 's parking outside her house.

I half wanted to tell her that I paid my tax and she didn't own the road and I would park where I wanted, but I was worried she'd key my car or let my tyres down or something.

I am wondering if I should risk parking there again, if it's not worth the risk of her being like that again, if she did anything illegal? and also wondering if she may have it in for me now and what to do if she says anything else, and also just curious as to what others would have done in this situation?
It shook me up a little but I kept calm. Did I do the right thing?

Nocabbageinmyeye Fri 22-Jul-16 00:32:56

Well it doesn't sound like there was much reasoning with her so if there was a space free and it was no hassle I would have moved rather than antagonise a drunk shouty woman. If I went back in future and there was somewhere just as easy elsewhere I would park there for a quiet life but if there were no other spaces I would park there again and if she came back out my reaction would depend on whether or not she was drunk & shouty or sober.

And HA is irrelevant I think

WhingySquirrel Fri 22-Jul-16 00:34:10

Thanks. I guess that is what I will do. I only put HA as I wondered if there was any different rules about parking or visiting but I assumed not.

WhingySquirrel Fri 22-Jul-16 00:35:39

It isn't just as easy really, as it's a different road , opposite rather than literally the other side of the road, and I have to back up into it rather than just pull up outside but it is no great hardship.

WhingySquirrel Fri 22-Jul-16 00:37:47

Also (so sorry to drip feed!I just forgot to mention), she came back and knocked on the door about ten minutes later, not sure why! My partner shut the door in her face before she could say anything as to why she was there!

trafalgargal Fri 22-Jul-16 01:03:35

I wouldn't move in with him...she clearly doesn't like fire persons, flight attendant, traffic wardens or whatever it is you do ;)

Other than that as she not your neighbour but your DP's and any backlash will fall on him primarily- what does he think ?

WhingySquirrel Fri 22-Jul-16 02:18:35

trafal she said she's fuming and wanted to confront NDN but I said not to, not to cause trouble for herself as you pointed out. I think I would have acted a bit differently had it happened outside my own house!
I can't move in with her anyway for various reasons but this is definitely another one!

dailymaillazyjournos Fri 22-Jul-16 05:18:30

I live in HA flats and there is constant argument bargy about bloody parking. All parking is on street, no one has a designated space or a particular entitlement to any preferred spot. If it's the case at your partners that it's first come, first served as to whether you can park where you want then there's technically bugger all Shouty neighbour can do. Unless she has particular considerations such as anyone in her flat with mobility issues, then it's unreasonable for her to complain if parking is an issue generally round and about. I would for a quite life, park elsewhere whenever possible, but if there are no resident parking arrangements and no signs up with parking requirements etc, you are well within your rights to park safely and legally wherever you can.

dailymaillazyjournos Fri 22-Jul-16 05:24:24

Constant argy bargy. Predictive text fail.. oh and making comments about your job is ridiculous. If she says anything again I'd tell her she doesn't need to worry herself about your job because youve got a new one as a police officer/traffic warden. Unless your already either of those already.

ChatterNatterer Fri 22-Jul-16 05:31:41

HA is relevant as your partner can complain to them about her behaviour as it must breech anti social aspects of her tenancy agreement.

Birdsgottafly Fri 22-Jul-16 08:52:38

As Chatter said, HA is relevant because she's guilty of anti-social behaviour and being drunk and disorderly.

Just log the date on your phone and see if it happens again.

Don't engage other than to say that your legally parked, if she isn't drunk.

If there's any other incidents, then your Partner can report them.

It's in a HA tenancy agreement that you don't cause trouble with visitors going to your neighbors.

WhingySquirrel Fri 22-Jul-16 10:39:09

Right! Thanks for that info. Okay I won't report that but if anything else happens I'll ask for partner to report her. No mobility issues or any special preferences at all. I was worried she would damage my car if I park there though. There used to be cctv but there isn't now.

WicksEnd Fri 22-Jul-16 11:42:41

Your partners not doing an OU course is she by any chance? wink

WibblyWobblyJellyHead Fri 22-Jul-16 11:45:21

grin WicksEnd I wondered the same

Farfromtheusual Fri 22-Jul-16 11:55:05

You pay your road tax, you can park where you like.. I would have told the old bint to fuck off and not bothered to move. I get that you are worried about her causing damage, and it would be hard to prove it was her without cctv or witnesses, but she doesn't own the road and has no right to dictate where you park. If it happens again or she starts any other problems with your DP, ring 101 and ask to speak to the local neighbourhood team.

Farfromtheusual Fri 22-Jul-16 11:56:22

WicksEnd that crossed my mind too haha

blueturtle6 Fri 22-Jul-16 11:59:35

Wicksend, yes it does sound familiar.

PovertyPain Fri 22-Jul-16 12:03:27

OU course

Was confused, at first, why that was mentioned, then grin

WhingySquirrel Fri 22-Jul-16 13:02:29

No she isn't wicksend- have I missed something ? grin ?

Please do enlighten me!

Thanks for advice everyone. I'll leave it and see if anything else happens.

WhingySquirrel Tue 26-Jul-16 13:12:40


Neighbour wrote a note to my partner apologising. Saying she has no issue with me, what I do or the fact I park outside. Says she's sorry (to my partner, never says anything about being sorry to me!) and can it be put behind them. Also said she had had too much to drink while already in a bad mood and it wasn't a good idea.

I guess many of us have been a bit unreasonable while under the influence. I am a bit annoyed that it was done via note and she hasn't apologised to me personally or said 'please say sorry to whingy' or anything. I saw her yesterday when visiting and she flashed me a bit smile.

And I still want to know what this OU course thing is about! smile

WhingySquirrel Tue 26-Jul-16 13:13:03


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WhingySquirrel Tue 26-Jul-16 13:20:35

I still think I will continue to not park there, in case it happens again. I guess at least she did apologise.

tofutti Tue 26-Jul-16 13:53:37

Well that has worked out conveniently, hasn't it hmm

So? confused


Great stuff, OP. Keep noting down incident dates, though, in case it continues to happen.

WhingySquirrel Tue 26-Jul-16 13:57:01

I don't understand that comment either. But from the OU comments, I think some posters are assuming I am someone else.

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