DS's Negative 'award'

(66 Posts)
Owlytellsmesecrets Thu 21-Jul-16 20:15:41

In Suffolk with 3tier moving to 2tier system. We are keeping DS in 2 Tier so will stay at local primary until end of year 6. Only 12 kids staying at his school.
Teacher hand out awards.

Gabriel is Mr Sporty
Mia Miss Sporty
Kyle is Mr Happy
Chloe is Miss helpful.

My DS was Mr Muddle. No one else has a negative Mr or Miss award.

Silly but has upset DH and me.... We think DS 8 ASD or Dyspraxia... Defo some SEN ... Our DS 6 has Severe SEN so we know what we are talking about.

I hate to think he is being portrayed as a negative character.

AIBU to be upset by this label!!!

BendydickCuminsnatch Thu 21-Jul-16 20:16:58

Wow that's a bit shitty! YANBU I'd be hmm too.

buffalogrumble Thu 21-Jul-16 20:17:35

Yanbu. How thoughtless

Becky546 Thu 21-Jul-16 20:19:12

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KeemaNaanAndCurryOn Thu 21-Jul-16 20:22:01

Yes, I'd be pissed off about that too. What were they thinking.

WellErrr Thu 21-Jul-16 20:23:35

That's shit.

I'd say something.

ShatnersBassoon Thu 21-Jul-16 20:25:06

That is mean. There is no positive spin to be had from that. I'd be straight to the teacher to tell them exactly what they got wrong, and to wait for a sincere apology.

Notonthestairs Thu 21-Jul-16 20:25:37

YANBU. I bet your DS has lots of amazing positive qualities that could have been highlighted in his award.
It maybe they thought it was funny and he'd get the joke but just no.
I have a DD with SEN and I'd be livid. I think it's worth a sharp letter (a letter rather than a chat where your sons feelings and yours can be more easily dismissed or minimised)

BrandNewAndImproved Thu 21-Jul-16 20:26:08

My Ds got the award for falling down the most last year. I took it as funny and true. Is there a chance it's an affectionate funny award?

MoMandaS Thu 21-Jul-16 20:26:29

YANBU. Shocking. Does he know the story? I would complain, very strongly.

Doggity Thu 21-Jul-16 20:27:51

YANBU. That is quite cruel actually. I'm sad and cross for your poor DS who I'm sure has many, many positive traits that they could have chosen from.

Euphemia Thu 21-Jul-16 20:28:51

It sounds like the teacher's idea of humour. What does DS think?

isthistoonosy Thu 21-Jul-16 20:29:19

I'd take it as affectionate and 'trying' to be funny/ cute.
But I see it from your point of view too.

WhereTheFuckIsWonderWoman Thu 21-Jul-16 20:32:16

If it was the teacher's attempt at humour then he/she should have done the same for every child in the class, not just singling your DS out. Definitely not on.

ShatnersBassoon Thu 21-Jul-16 20:32:22

My Ds got the award for falling down the most last year.

Presumably other children received similarly jokey awards, which made it an acceptable accolade. It wasn't Miss Perfect, Mr Wonderful, Miss Intelligent, Mr Falls Over All The Time, Miss Shining Star...

Being singled out as the only one the teacher couldn't think of anything positive to say about is not funny.

Fuckoffdailymailyoufuckers Thu 21-Jul-16 20:33:20

What bastards. That's awful.

VimFuego101 Thu 21-Jul-16 20:37:23

That's really shitty. They should have found something positive - not necessarily academic, could just be about him being cheerful or making people laugh.

shazzarooney999 Thu 21-Jul-16 20:41:55

I reckon its probably an affectionate term because he probably always is in a muddle and thats what he may be nicknamed in class.

villainousbroodmare Thu 21-Jul-16 20:42:08

I'd be annoyed about that too.

youarenotkiddingme Thu 21-Jul-16 20:42:22

Your right it's shitty.

If you are highlighting positive personality traits then you highlight everyone's.

Euphemia Thu 21-Jul-16 20:42:34

Maybe the other ones ARE humorous!

Gabriel is Mr Sporty
= total dumpling in PE

Mia Miss Sporty
= ditto

Kyle is Mr Happy
= miserable sod, never smiles

Chloe is Miss helpful
= sits and watches everyone else tidy up

grin

UmbongoUnchained Thu 21-Jul-16 20:43:15

I got "most likely to be arrested" when I left school!

MovingOnUpMovingOnOut Thu 21-Jul-16 20:44:47

Write Mr Thoughtless and letter and point out the obvious to him.

Yanbu.

MissDuke Thu 21-Jul-16 20:45:50

Op, yanbu sad I think I would have to say something!

molyholy Thu 21-Jul-16 20:47:07

yadnbu. That is horrible. Even if it was meant in an affectionate way, it was at best insensitive, at worst cruel. I am sure they wouldn't be purposefully cruel. But highly insensitive and thoughtless.

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