Both my brother and sister live abroad. My DS who is nearly 3.5 has not seen his uncle for over 3 years so does not remember him. DS has not seen his aunt for over a year and before that only saw her once every 3-4 months.
Despite my best efforts at trying to keep in touch with both of them and trying to arrange SKYPE and FaceTime calls neither are really interested and have not accepted the invites. DS has been very upset about them not being in contact in the past and I have told this to both my sister and brother. This has not spurred them on to call despite my invites. DS did not receive any cards or presents at Xmas from either of them.
At this point I decided that they weren't interested in him, which is their choice and I don't hold a grudge, they don't have children themselves and as I've mentioned were not a close family.
Out of the blue my sister wants to call whilst we are visiting my mother, I am reluctant to take this call as I am worried about the negative effect it will have on DS. Particularly because I have spent many evenings comforting him when he wanted to speak with them and they have been too busy (although I just told him that the phones don't work very well abroad, which totally isn't true and I'm getting a bit sick of lying about it all).
Should I let him speak with his aunt as a one off and then be prepared to pick up the pieces? Or do I tell my sister no and suffer the consequences of being told that I am unreasonable?
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Sleepdeprived123 · 21/07/2016 08:57
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