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Awkward emails.

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summerskittles91 Wed 20-Jul-16 15:01:16

Had various emails from our business director, who is based in another country.

Some examples

'Thanks, honey. '

'(my name) day, today! Christ, there are lot of (my name) on the internet. Who of them is you?'
- followed by him sending me a photo of a random person asking if that's me?!

'Hi (my name).

You’re all mine today'

AIBU to find this slightly awkward or is it him harmlessly flirting/being nice? Should I tell my boss? or ignore it. WWYD?

Have worked here for a few months and previous emails have been fine, only for the past few days its been a bit weird.

TheresAlwaysTimeForTea Wed 20-Jul-16 15:15:34

Which country is he based in? Also is he loads older? Sometimes that gives a clue as to whether he thinks it is normal or not. It isn't really acceptable if it is making you uncomfortable. So your options are seethe silently and say nothing, or make a complaint and risk opening a can of worms/ escalating the whole thing. I would suggest keeping quiet for now, but keep all of your emails very matter of fact/ professional and then if they get worse you can reassess then. Hope that helps.

useyourimagination Wed 20-Jul-16 15:16:29

Is English his first language?

NeedMoreSleepOrSugar Wed 20-Jul-16 15:18:59

Odd that he's suddenly started to be like this after months of 'normal' emails - had anything happened recently that might have led to the change? If it's upsetting you then certainly raise with management/hr if you don't feel comfortable calling him on it, otherwise I'd suggest keeping your emails quite formal and about business only, no engagement with any of his 'banter '

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe Wed 20-Jul-16 15:19:11

Do what TheresAlwaysTimeForTea says, keep your own e-mails faultlessly professional, ignore the 'chat' and he will stop.

Either that or he will ramp it up. In which case YOU tell him to stop. No need to involve your boss unless you want to escalate it but I would expect an adult to be able to deflect silly flirting themselves without making a drama of it.

Arfarfanarf Wed 20-Jul-16 15:20:29

I would be very formal in my replies and hope that he responded in kind.

if he carried on, I would say he was making me feel uncomfortable and tell him to stop

If he didn't stop, I would ask my boss to tell him to stop.

marblestatue Wed 20-Jul-16 15:21:33

YANBU to find it awkward. I think you could politely but firmly make it clear that the remarks aren't welcome, and steer the conversation away.

"You're all mine today" hmm
"I don't think so. Anyway what are the work priorities today?"

breakfastnotattiffanys Wed 20-Jul-16 15:28:19

Are you sure it really is him?. My son in laws account was hacked recently and random messages have been sent to people in his address book . I would check by phone if possible

summerskittles91 Wed 20-Jul-16 15:41:55

Thanks for the replies.

He is based in Germany, I have spoken to him on the phone and he can speak very fluent english.

I have kept my replies professional and not engaged in the banter.

breakfastnotattiffanys - it is definitely him as he is including work related stuff in these emails.

AdjustableWench Wed 20-Jul-16 16:30:05

I would find that kind of thing very annoying. And I would definitely mention it to my boss. I'm guessing that either the business director is a sexist pig, or he's going through some kind of personal troubles that are affecting his judgement (so that he's being a sexist pig). Apart from the annoyance involved, it's not good for business.

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