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To wonder if this is what people mean by gentle parenting

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pleasemothermay1 Wed 20-Jul-16 13:36:12

Not sure why a one year old wouldn't have a nappy on as she clearly is not Notts trained at that age my one year old would be become destressed to be constantly wet

And what's the no medication about surely social service would become involved if they got very ill and parents did noting

Very odd

WhooooAmI24601 Wed 20-Jul-16 13:44:10

My 5 year old once shat on MIL's John Lewis hall carpet. Life's too short to be judging other folks parenting; they'd not make great news unless they were controversial, and if clearing up fifty pisses a day makes them happy, let them crack on.

I clear enough piss up each day down the side of our downstairs loo to warrant needing to clean up more.

pleasemothermay1 Wed 20-Jul-16 13:48:50


derxa Wed 20-Jul-16 13:49:31

I think it's 'crunchy' parenting.

derxa Wed 20-Jul-16 13:52:39

and if clearing up fifty pisses a day makes them happy, let them crack on
The dad seemed to think it was hilarious. I didn't. Sorry if that makes me a humourless old hag.

SalemSaberhagen Wed 20-Jul-16 13:54:59

That isn't gentle parenting. GP is more logical consequences (so you hit your brother with that toy, which means you don't get the toy any more - rather than you hit him with that toy, that's it, you are going to bed now), don't agree with naughty step, smacking etc.

They sound like permissive parents.

pleasemothermay1 Wed 20-Jul-16 13:55:04

It's almost like there using there children to prove a point but I just not sure what that point is

Children will run wild if you let them

Children will make odd , bad and sometimes dangerous choices if y U let them there children

And children who aren't potty trained wee on the floor at random hell they piss on the floor if they are potty trained

And if you don't use medication you get ill or become sicker

But as long as they are seen to be trendy 😳

Doggity Wed 20-Jul-16 13:55:06

It's all about the parents, in this case. It's about them showing off how unique and special snowflake they are. Poor kids. sad I do think gentle parenting has some great child-focused ideas but this is taking it to an extreme.

Doggity Wed 20-Jul-16 13:55:53

I only skim read but their son has asthma?!! Jeez.

pleasemothermay1 Wed 20-Jul-16 13:59:59

We all have to learn social norms weather you agree with them or not and those

How dose not giving your children any boundaries help them on the road to adult hood

This only works in your own bubble right up until they have to access the wider world

It won't be much of a issue at the moment as they are small there friends most likely have similar parenting views and they home school but when ther children get to teens they are in for a shock

Gowgirl Wed 20-Jul-16 14:02:36

I saw this In cough the metroblush you have to wonder how much nature is available in central Brighton and dh nearly vomited when he googled lotus birthgrin

Dontneedausername Wed 20-Jul-16 14:05:10

It's all about them showing off about how "different" they are!
Of course children need to be taught, and as adults, and parents, it's our job to teach.
Whether it's potty training a 2 year old, or using elimination communication, both are methods used by us to teach. Letting a kid piss wherever it wants, isn't teaching them anything!
Whether you use a naughty step, or gentle positive parenting, both are methods for teaching children to behave appropriately.
Letting them run wild isn't.

And don't even get me started on the no vaccinations.
I'm not even saying they need to medicate for every sniffle, plenty don't.
But what if they get something serious? Will they just cover the kid in herbs and hope for the best?

What an absolute pair angry

pleasemothermay1 Wed 20-Jul-16 14:06:12

What the fuck just googled it 🙊😷 these people need to seek help surly

pleasemothermay1 Wed 20-Jul-16 14:08:46

Why is it when working class people do fuck all with there kids let them run wild its neglect

WHEN A MIDDLE CLASS PERSON DOSE THIS it's a trendy parenting fad

MiddleClassProblem Wed 20-Jul-16 14:10:35

Can only imagine what Eamon made of this grin

hastheworldgonemad Wed 20-Jul-16 14:14:31

Oh dear what a shame they disnt just go on love island or don't tell the bride or any other reality TV show as they clearly just want theyr 5 minutes of fame.

They are too stupid and self obsessed to realise that involving other people, their kids, may probably involve them in court proceedings for neglect.

Poor kids. Life is going to be very hard for them as they get older.

NervousRider Wed 20-Jul-16 14:16:15

Noticed they didn't go barefeet so they could "feel the earth "

SpringerS Wed 20-Jul-16 14:16:45

It is possible that the little girl would normally never/rarely wet herself but being in a television studio with all of the cameras pointing in her direction and the staff working away (and possibly a studio audience?) was very discombobulating to her and she wet herself when under more normal circumstances she would have alerted her parents to her need. You can see that she clearly stopped before it happened and paid attention to it happening, so she does know her body well enough to know that she was about to pee and was peeing. It's also possible that the father laughed from embarrassment. It's also more than possible that there was a producer off-screen who waved at him to ignore it and continue on with the interview.

While over-use of anti-biotics is a very serious issue, it's crazy to plan to never use them. And while I know vaccines are a contentious issue for some, the weight of evidence is in favour of them unless medically indicated for a particular child. So these parents are seriously wrong in their attitude toward illness. But other than that I'd be very wary of judging them based on a short appearance on a television show where they are just two (most likely media-unsavvy) people up against a team of people who's job it is to get the best possible story.

hastheworldgonemad Wed 20-Jul-16 14:16:52

And no vaccinations! In my opinion children who could have been vaccinated and arnt and then get measles or meningitis have been wilfully neglected and their parents should be prosecuted.

chocolatecakemakesmefat Wed 20-Jul-16 14:16:53

They both seem batshit poor kids hmm

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost Wed 20-Jul-16 14:17:06

A one year old baby weeing on the floor is one thing. However fast forward 10 years down the line and. The child is born throwing bricks at people's windows and the parents are still using the "gentle" parenting approach as an excuse not to discipline their little darlings. Then yes that's when it goes into problem territory

derxa Wed 20-Jul-16 14:17:28

Isn't this style of parenting as old as the hills?

cosmicglittergirl Wed 20-Jul-16 14:19:13

I'm not bothered by people BFing 5 year olds, co-sleeping blah blah etc etc, but I have no time for non vaccinators. They're putting their children at risk and relying on herd immunity.

AndNowItsSeven Wed 20-Jul-16 14:21:04

I would love to know what the dads job is?

AndNowItsSeven Wed 20-Jul-16 14:21:21

I bet it's not chief tree hugger.

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