To ask wwyd re ds being bullied?

[hanselandmarge]

I've name changed for this.

It's very long winded, and I hope I don't drip feed, but I do tend to ramble. So I will try and explain briefly.

Ds (yr 6) being told by another boy in his class that he will beat him up. Has said a few times that if they were out of school ds would be knocked out. Have an eye hanging out, will strangle ds.

Their teacher is aware as of today, where it all came to a head, and blamed it on hormones and the heat. I'd asked this boy what is going on and he started threatening me screaming at me, telling me to piss off. I've known him for years and wasn't expecting this.

Ds has become very angry with it all. Dh telling him to not take any crap. And me trying to keep the peace.

The mum messaged me earlier saying he is grounded but he is calling her a fucking bitch and has been biting her.

Wwyd?

[TheRealAdaLovelace]

at this point, probably nothing, other than asking school to keep an eye.
School will be over soon, and then won't they be going to new schools in September?

[hanselandmarge]

Same school in September.

[TheRealAdaLovelace]

oh that is a shame

[hanselandmarge]

I know. I don't want this for my ds.

[TheRealAdaLovelace]

are DS and DH arguing about it? Is DH giving DS a hard time?
It is so difficult. I used to try to give my son strategies for dealing with bullying but am not sure it worked.
In a way at least you can be grateful you are not in the other mum's shoes....

[hanselandmarge]

No, just dh and I having differing opinions.

Ds settled down once at home and opened up to me with it all. I've said to not engage at all with this boy.

[Mouikey]

Why do people make excuses for bullies? It's hormones and heat? No it's not, it's terrible behaviour that needs to be addressed. I feel terrible for all involved including the teacher who is probably at a loss to know what to do. It's good that you and the boys mum could talk about it and it sounds as though his behaviour has gone totally off track.

Keep doing what you're doing so your son knows he can talk to you guys and has support at home.

[hanselandmarge]

I might speak to the teacher after school today. It's night right that Ds is threatened daily, and then my youngest witnesses this boy swearing and screaming at me.

[hanselandmarge]

Night? I meant not!