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AIBU?

I have a screamer next door.

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ModreB · 18/07/2016 20:38

Lovely family, but the youngest, about 4yo is a screamer. She screams in the garden, bathroom, living room. Everywhere.

Has done for 2 years since they moved in. Screams instantly at 2am if she wakes up. Screams if the door is shut. Or open. You get the message.

If I'm honest, I feel sympathy for the DM. (DF is absent a lot of the time)

2 older DC's, who dont scream.

I have 3 DC's who didnt scream.

I would never dream of complaining, BIABU to be a bit fed up.

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fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 18/07/2016 20:41

And can you think of any reasons why she , unusually, might scream all the time?

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ModreB · 18/07/2016 20:55

No, no SN seen. Have spoken to the DM who said "I hope youre not disturbed by the loud one". No loud arguments, DC seems to scream for pleasure IYWSIM.

"We're going to school" Scream. 7.30 am

In the garden, 5pm, 6pm, 7pm. Was pretty constant until now. still screaming.

"Daddys home" Scream. 10pm last night.

"Time for bed" Scream 3am last night.

We're cutting the grass. Scream 6pm this afternoon.

Last 24 hrs.

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sooperdooper · 18/07/2016 20:58

I feel your pain, there's a child who plays out in our street who screams constantly, I know kids make a bit of noise playing and that's fine but the screaming is wearing :(

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WanderingNotLost · 18/07/2016 20:59

I can relate. My upstairs neighbour where I used to live had a DD that would scream in the night because she wanted to get in bed with her Mum. Her Mum (who worked P/T so could go back to sleep after she dropped DD to nursery) would just let her scream. For me, who was being kept awake for hours at night by this and had to be up hideously early for work, it was hell.

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WanderingTrolley1 · 18/07/2016 21:00

Kids make noise, but I think a constantly screaming child would bother me.

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ABloodyDifficultWoman · 18/07/2016 21:03

I share your pain - there's one in the next road down (gardens back on to our street) - seems the mum puts it out first thing in the morning until sunset and it just screams and screams and screams. Sometimes it screams to be let back in, sometimes she lets it in - but mostly it just screams. I don't know if it's a boy or a girl - I only know it screams!

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tireddotcom72 · 18/07/2016 21:03

Do you have my neighbour? They also have a constantly screaming child

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SaucyJack · 18/07/2016 21:03

I do sympathise. We have a screamer in our block too.

Unfortunately, she's my kid- so I can't even stick earplugs in or go off to the pub to escape it.

Not all small kids are little bundles of joy. Nuffin wrong with having a moan on an anonymous forum about it.

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BeenThereTooSEL · 18/07/2016 21:04

I am the woman with a screaming DC. I make a point to apologise whenever I see our poor neighbours

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Alasalas2 · 18/07/2016 21:05

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HumphreyCobblers · 18/07/2016 21:06

My ds is going through a screaming phase. It is ear-splitting.

The woman in the supermarket queue behind me turned her hearing aid off the other day, when he was in full, screaming throttle.

It is truly grim.

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validusername · 18/07/2016 21:06

I have a 4 year old DD who screams. She knows I hate it and I do try to get her to stop but it's her default reaction to everything. I do worry what my neighbours think and if they get annoyed with it.

I have two older dc who have never screamed so I don't know where I have gone wrong with the third one.

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YouSay · 18/07/2016 21:07

I had a screamer. She grew out of it but it was mortifying. She would scream in shops and cafes. It was so high pitched I would get shocked looks and immediately leave. It was hell.

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fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 18/07/2016 21:07

Well she could just like screaming, but ""no SN seen" doesn't really mean much when we are talking about invisible disablities.

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fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 18/07/2016 21:08

If she is NT it will surely be a phase and stop soon so I would grit teeth and hang on in there.

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ModreB · 18/07/2016 21:08

It's so wearing. As I say, I dont have any other issues, other than the screaming. It must wake up the others, it's so loud and piercing.

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hotdiggedy · 18/07/2016 21:10

Sounds awful Some children seem to enjoy screaming (ever been in a school during playtime where they have screaming contests?) I think its awful. For those of you with children, do you tell them to stop/ask them why they do it? I don't think I would put it with my children doing it!

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BurstMyBubbles · 18/07/2016 21:12

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TSSDNCOP · 18/07/2016 21:13

My mum had one next door. DM could give A level patience classes to saints but even she was seriously challenged. Same child is now 18, no SN it was just an awful phase she went through.

Wondering if there's actually a way to stop it?

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ModreB · 18/07/2016 21:13

BTW I have an ASD DS, who also finds it very wearing.

When she wakes him up at night he calls her the "annoying screaming child". I've explained that her parents are probably as fed up as we are, she doesn't do it on purpose as she's too small.

But it's still annoying.

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shazzarooney999 · 18/07/2016 21:14

Even though you say you cant see any Sn you dont know that, children can seem normal but they are not they can have Sn, my son used to cry heck of a lot, he cried when you picked him up!anyway my boys looks ok, you wouldnt know he had anything but he Asd. You cant always judge a book by its cover.

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WankersHacksandThieves · 18/07/2016 21:14

Can't you just train them like you do cats? Scream, squirt in the face with a water pistol....and repeat until they learn that screaming has horrible consequences? :o

That would honestly do my head in OP. Are the parents actually trying to do anything about it?

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Thornrose · 18/07/2016 21:15

I've just had a lovely conversation with my neighbours about dd who is currently in hospital. She has ASD and at 16 is a swearer and a door slammer and very aggressive.

My neighbours go to great lengths to understand and be non judgemental. They are happy to have us living next door. Most of the time I'm a quiet considerate neighbour. Same for the other side next door and the guy upstairs.

It could be so much worse.

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