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Maria1243 Sun 17-Jul-16 23:20:16

To put it straight my sex life is greatly satisfying
However he doesn't seem to go down untill a fair while after
I had a ex boyfriend who used to go down straight away and he always used to say it went down quickly because he was so satisfied
Even my current boyfriend has on one occasion said "you can tell it was great because look at me!(points to you know)"
I'm super insecure because he always continuously says how amazing he finds it but it's doesn't seem to show down there because it's still standing up
And I get quite upset about it, is that silly? I don't know wether he's just telling me what I want to hear or wether I'm getting more satisfaction than him even though I try very hard to satisfy him

Pinkheart5915 Sun 17-Jul-16 23:24:58

Dh doesn't gone down straight after.

I use to think once a man cum he went down and couldn't preform again that night well then I met dh he can stay hard and go all night with little breaks

JustHereForThePooStories Sun 17-Jul-16 23:25:15

I've read this three times and am still none the wiser.

TheDuchyOfGrandFenwick Sun 17-Jul-16 23:25:38

Yabu and silly. Why not just shag again?

IHateDoors Sun 17-Jul-16 23:26:30


FuckyNell Sun 17-Jul-16 23:26:50

Each man is different. Don't worry.

PortiaCastis Sun 17-Jul-16 23:26:52

Don't waste it have another bonk

TheWeeBabySeamus1 Sun 17-Jul-16 23:27:16

Oh thank god, I seriously thought my ex was the only one this happened to (never seen it before). I swear it would still be stood to attention for an hour after.

The worst thing was the fact that he wouldn't always stop when he was done because he didn't have to. One night he was still going after an hour and I was getting sore, bored and upset (because I thought he hadn't "arrived") so I said if you're not enjoying it then stop. He looked shocked and said "No it's great, I've come 4 times already" angry I was super pissed off and made it clear that he got one shot (pun very much intended) and then it was game over for a while.

Men are all different and if he's happy with it then don't stress.

LineyReborn Sun 17-Jul-16 23:28:11

It's about erections subsiding. Not oral sex.

StickTheDMWhereTheSunDontShine Sun 17-Jul-16 23:29:01


Jaguarana Sun 17-Jul-16 23:31:08

There's a Sex topic for this sort of stuff.

SaggyNaggy Sun 17-Jul-16 23:33:22

Its a weirs thing amongst men. A lot of them believe women want to be "Banged" for hours. I've not met a woman yet that wants hours of PIV sex. It gets boring, sore and dry after a while.

Op, if his penis is remaining erect but he's happy and satisfied then it doesnt matter does it? Have a cuddle and go for round d 2.
Was a time I could have a round 2 after 20 minutes, now a days I need at least an hour and a cup of tea, maybe even a bit of Victoria sponge or a scone.

Maria1243 Sun 17-Jul-16 23:36:42

Yeah I'm not talking about oral
The thing is I'm normally one to carry on just because, and he tends to go twice quickly (as in we don't have a break) and even then it takes a while
There's been two "3" cum occasions and he hated it, he said he felt funny and weird and as much as he enjoyed it, the actually third time made him feel odd and unsettled
I just don't want him to be just telling me he's super enjoying it when he's not we had a hiccup where I was having sex pretty much every night and I found out he was still watching porn and masturbating, and I felt super inadequate
I talked to him about it and he stopped instantly because he didn't want me to feel like that
I just don't want it to be one sided

PortiaCastis Sun 17-Jul-16 23:37:25

I prefer a jam tart

Maria1243 Sun 17-Jul-16 23:37:51

Takes a while meaning to go down

And it meaning the actual intercourse

TheWeeBabySeamus1 Sun 17-Jul-16 23:40:11

If it happens twice in one session then he's obviously enjoying it. Is there a reason you're doubting him? Are you struggling with confidence?

Maria1243 Sun 17-Jul-16 23:44:25

I think so
We have child together but he also has previous daughter with his ex
I really struggle feeling like I need to out do her, probably because I just want to be different, I've never been like this with someone I want to be his everything but because of my previous relationships I get paranoid (I've had a long relationship with a serial liar)
He's never lied to me but I personally feel a bit like exs replacement because they've had a crazy history

ClopySow Sun 17-Jul-16 23:56:25

Really confusing post.

TheWeeBabySeamus1 Sun 17-Jul-16 23:58:30

You don't need to "out do" her because you both have a child with him. It's not a competition, and if they were happy together then they'd still be with each other wouldn't they?

He's telling you he's happy with you, that you're enough for him. Trust in that, and know that for most people the sexiest thing is confidence and self worth. Most of the women I know that I would class as attractive/sexy are so confident. They walk with their heads held high. None of them are the same age/shape/have similar features etc. But they're all extremely comfortable in their own skin.

FWIW my ex was a gym buff ( that amazing body was the only reason I stayed as long as I did ) and I was a size 14 with a big arse and no boobs. All his ex partners had bodies like porn stars - but I didn't care. He chose to be with me knowing what I looked like, and never compared.

TheWeeBabySeamus1 Sun 17-Jul-16 23:59:44

... me to them. Helps if I finish the sentence before posting. blush

StickTheDMWhereTheSunDontShine Mon 18-Jul-16 00:02:34

Fucksake, it's not a competition, you know.

Sorry, I'm done, should really be sufficient. If he's not happy with that, then that's when you have problems. If he wants you to carry on long after it's got boring for you, then maybe you need to consider that he's a bit of an asshole.

StickTheDMWhereTheSunDontShine Mon 18-Jul-16 00:03:35

And how and where does the crazy history come in?

AdjustableWench Mon 18-Jul-16 00:11:03

Different men are different. (Truism, but there you go.)
If he says he's satisfied, you should take him at his word.
As long as you're both satisfied, where's the problem?
The ex is an ex for a reason. He's with you now. You don't have to compete with someone else.
Just get on with it and enjoy it. That's what it's for.

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen Mon 18-Jul-16 00:15:10

What you're describing is completely normal.

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