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To ask husband to stop drinking..

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user1468775170 Sun 17-Jul-16 18:16:51

...this is the first time I've ever posted. I am at wits end. I am 35 weeks pregnant with complete placenta Previa. If I bleed I need to get to hospital ASAP. I asked husband to stop drinking towards end of pregnancy and he agreed. But tonight I woke up and found him in his study complete wasted and I suspect he's been doing it every night. I go to bed early. I think it's selfish and shows complete disregard for the health of me and baby. He doesn't think he's in the wrong and proceeded to rant at me when i asked him to stop and told me I could get a cab if necessary. I'm ashamed of him and don't know what to do.

Wolfiefan Sun 17-Jul-16 18:17:52

He's getting wasted every night? You need to decide if you (and your baby) can live with him and his alcohol problem.

DramaInPyjamas Sun 17-Jul-16 18:24:24

Why is he drinking so much? Has he always been like this or is it a recent thing?

user1468775170 Sun 17-Jul-16 18:27:29

He has always drunk a lot. The drinking per se doesn't bother me - when I'm not pregnant I like my wine too. My issue is more with the fact he hasn't stopped when I need him to.

user1468775170 Sun 17-Jul-16 18:29:14

I know he can stop as he did recently when on antibiotics

Wolfiefan Sun 17-Jul-16 18:31:11

The fact he "can" stop doesn't mean he doesn't have an issue with alcohol.
There is an NHS (I think) set of questions to determine if there is an issue.
Regularly drinking to excess, drink affecting relationships and being defensive about drinking are all anger signs.

OohhItsNotHoxton Sun 17-Jul-16 18:31:44

I think the fact that he hids away to drink and does so regularly are indicators that he can't stop rather than won't.

mzS1990 Sun 17-Jul-16 18:32:28

You should expect him to stop

HopeClearwater Sun 17-Jul-16 18:34:43

You've got an alcoholic there I'm afraid. I know from bitter experience that asking them to stop is pointless.

pointythings Sun 17-Jul-16 18:51:11

He won't stop. The fact that he feels the need to do it in secret because you have asked him to (for very good reasons) says he is an alcoholic. You have a big problem on your hands.

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