Welcome to my very first aibu?
Me & dd had a disagreement today & I'd like guidance. So, she asked me to take a parcel to the post office, it was shoes bought online that needed returning. Dd's college course ended 3 weeks ago and she's had the parcel waiting to go back all that time. She doesn't work and spends her days in bed until lunchtime, gaming, skyping or doing her hobbies. She does nothing to contribute to the running of the house. I refused to take the parcel for 3 reasons, 1stly, if I keep doing everything for her I'm only 'enabling' her laziness and it's about time she started taking responsibility for herself. 2ndly, I was really knackered having worked for 14hrs the previous day sewing an outfit for her holiday next week & I'm still in recovery from a nervous breakdown a few months back. 3rdly, our post office has enormous queues that snake out the door & I just couldn't face it. You could say I should have instilled a better work ethic in her years ago but for background, our last 5yrs have been catastrophic as a family with many deaths, two lots of life threatening illness, a major rebuild, divorce, redundancy and major surgery, so normal life went out the window. We're now on an even keel just about and I'm gently trying to help her make the transition to adulthood. So please tell me, was I being unreasonable? I'm considering showing her this thread to illustrate others views.
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Who is BU, me or dd (19)?
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chewadoodle · 16/07/2016 22:50
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