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Or is this PFB?

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Crunchymum Thu 14-Jul-16 21:02:04

Asked a friend if she wanted to do something this weekend (not anything that unusual, a day trip to an attraction) and her reply was 'just want to check with Dad in-case he wants to do it first as a family'

AIBU to think it's a little bit of an odd response?

Crunchymum Thu 14-Jul-16 21:03:38

It's a farm by the way... wanted to be obscure but it doesn't make much sense otherwise!!

BrieAndChilli Thu 14-Jul-16 21:04:25

Depends on the attraction I guess and the age of the child but there may be something there that she feels her husband may want to experience the child's first time doing?

NavyandWhite Thu 14-Jul-16 21:04:50

Erm no I don't think it's pfb. I would check with DH first that it was ok. Surely it's just common courtesy?

EarthboundMisfit Thu 14-Jul-16 21:05:35

I think it's reasonable if young children are involved.

fastdaytears Thu 14-Jul-16 21:06:13

Checking that there's nothing else planned is normal but checking that the dad doesn't want to see goats with the kid first is a bit precious

user7755 Thu 14-Jul-16 21:06:19

Nothing odd about that at all.

Crunchymum Thu 14-Jul-16 21:06:52

Yeah I guess you would check if your partner is busy if it's family time (her DP works weekends as does mine) so it's not a timing clash.

Crunchymum Thu 14-Jul-16 21:08:00

Almost 2yo

Floggingmolly Thu 14-Jul-16 21:10:58

Very PFB. If mooching round a farm was such a Kodak moment for them as a family they'd have done it already, wouldn't they?

monkeywithacowface Thu 14-Jul-16 21:13:49

Dunno on the surface it could seem a bit pfb but at the same time maybe he feels he misses out on other things so family trips are important.

elodie2000 Thu 14-Jul-16 22:34:47

I'd be annoyed. She's basically saying that she'll only go with you if her husband doesn't fancy it.
She's rude.
Talk about making you feel second best!
Why didn't she say to you - 'That's somewhere DH might want to go too. Would you mind if he came along with us ?'

elodie2000 Thu 14-Jul-16 22:38:00

Actually, if she did say that I'd probably tell her to get on with it with her DH... Can't imagine anything worse than traipsing around a farm with a friend, her husband and their child!!! 😂

ShatnersBassoon Thu 14-Jul-16 22:46:25

I'm not sure. I can sort of understand it.

My DH often missed a lot of the fun stuff when our children were little, and I know he sometimes felt a bit left out. If this was something we'd recently discussed, I might be a bit conscious of trying to keep something back for him to be part of. Even the first trip to throw pellets at goats is important if you feel you're missing out on 'family moments'.

Still, I probably wouldn't tell my friend that that was why I was delaying in making a decision about it. I'd just say I had to check the calendar.

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