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AIBU?

To be annoyed my husband invited me out for lunch...after stating there's no one in the office tomorrow

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Discobabe · 13/07/2016 10:41

His team are all out tomorrow so he will be 'alone' (alone in his immediate work area, there are other people in the office but not people he knows well).

I feel like he's only asked because I'm a better option than eating alone at his desk, he doesn't invite me out for lunch when his team members are there.

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ElsaAintAsColdAsMe · 13/07/2016 10:43

Is there more of a back story here? On the face of it I would say you are over reacting somewhat.

Nocabbageinmyeye · 13/07/2016 10:47

I think your reading too much into it to be honest, go or don't, he probably just realised he would be on his own and thought "I'll ask discobabe if she's free for lunch, that would be nice" as opposed to him using you because the thoughts of an hour alone with a sandwich are so horrific

Gileswithachainsaw · 13/07/2016 10:47

is there more to this?

nothing wrong with earing with your work friends surely? it's not that your not good enough more that it's not healthy to solely rely on one person for company all the time.

and as fir asking for you today, why not?

NeedMoreSleepOrSugar · 13/07/2016 10:47

Unless there's more to this, I don't see the problem? Dh and I have certainly done this before - its just lunch - usually he's with work colleagues (normal) but tomorrow he has an opportunity he usually doesn't have, to do something different, and he chose to have lunch with you

HermioneJeanGranger · 13/07/2016 10:48

YABVU, what's wrong with that?

A11TheSmallTh1ngs · 13/07/2016 10:48

Are you a SAHM? I would suggest a hobby.

Scarydinosaurs · 13/07/2016 10:49

YABU it's just a nice offer. And isn't eating lunch with you better than being on your own? It sounds like you're just looking for the bad in things.

GeekyWombat · 13/07/2016 10:51

Maybe he thought 'hey, everyone's out today, what a fab opportunity to take my lovely Discobabe for lunch without having to dash back cause no-one will notice if I take a bit longer than usual.'

Unless there's something more going on here you've not mentioned, why assume the worst when on the face of it he's doing something nice? Give him the benefit of the doubt!

feathermucker · 13/07/2016 10:52

Really?! Unless there's a back story here...YABVU

HandWash · 13/07/2016 10:53

It's just lunch.

Discobabe · 13/07/2016 10:56

No I'm not a sahm 😂. Yes there is backstory, our relationship hasn't always been great. I do often read too much into innocent things because of this. Thanks for putting me straight, answers taken on board, I'm being silly.

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FruStefanOla · 13/07/2016 10:57

I agree with Geeky's observation that he can probably get away with taking a bit longer for lunch than normal and thought it would give you both an opportunity to have a nice, relaxing lunch out together.

Nocabbageinmyeye · 13/07/2016 10:59

Op: aibu?
Mn: yes you are
Op: great thanks you are right

All's well that ends well, enjoy your lunch op

FruStefanOla · 13/07/2016 11:01

Sorry - I X-posted with the OP.

SaucyJack · 13/07/2016 11:02

He's probably just thinking he can have a glass of wine without having to worry about colleague's smelling his breath.

Chill Winston.

SaucyJack · 13/07/2016 11:02

Erroneous apostrophe!

Dodooodoo · 13/07/2016 11:03

Hope you have a nice time!

Stillunexpected · 13/07/2016 11:03

I would have though he was inviting you because he can have a slightly more relaxed lunch if no-one is going to notice that he is 10 mins late back. Surely he doesn't feel the need to eat with someone so badly every day that he has to invite you rather than having a sandwich at his desk? Who actually takes a lunch hour these days anyway - surely if you weren't available he would just pop out for 20 mins?

madgingermunchkin · 13/07/2016 11:05

If things haven't been great, maybe he's making an effort to change that......

ElsaAintAsColdAsMe · 13/07/2016 11:07

You aren't supposed to take our advice on board op.

Don't you know the rules of AIBU?

Discobabe · 13/07/2016 11:09

Good point madgingermunchkin.

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Sparklesilverglitter · 13/07/2016 11:12

Husband invites wife out for lunch

What's the problem?

Go for lunch and enjoy

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Scarydinosaurs · 13/07/2016 11:14

Order lobster and have a white wine. Enjoy!

GabsAlot · 13/07/2016 11:15

no no no! why arent you being all weird and dfensive op ;)

anyway enjoy your lunch never been invited out by my dh then again he works an hour away andim not travelling that far for lunch

LikeASoulWithoutAMind · 13/07/2016 11:28

I thought the same as GeekyWombat - he's probably thinking it's a good opportunity to go out for lunch without too much clock watching.

Hope you have a nice time

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