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AIBU?

to never want to speak to BIL again

194 replies

Awkwardas · 12/07/2016 06:19

Sisters been married to him for 20 years we've known him For 26 yrs. He's always been a bit funny sometimes fine other times not so, I think he looks down his nose at us. No reason, he's a plumber his dad a dustbin man. Anyway him sis & family booked a holiday so me & my mum decided to surprise them for the last week as its my nieces birthday. We turn up in the second week & bil is clearly.pissed off! We felt very awkward but luckily were in different hotels. We went to see them on our second say & bil completely ignored us, we've known him 26 years & he just blanks us! I now appreciate he wanted family time & we shouldn't have come but I'm utterly pissed off that he thinks its acceptable to ignore us. Would I be wrong to never speak to him again?

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Waffles80 · 12/07/2016 06:25

I'd be ignoring you, too.

mnistooaddictive · 12/07/2016 06:25

You crashed his holiday, he probably can't speak without telling you how angry he is. You are in the wrong, not him.

BagPusscatnip · 12/07/2016 06:26

splendide · 12/07/2016 06:27

He sounds a bit rude but I'd be raging if DHs mum and sister (or mine actually!) did this. What on earth were you thinking?

Dani240 · 12/07/2016 06:29

You've already said that you know he doesn't like you that much. How would you feel if someone you didn't like 'surprised' you and showed up on your family holiday?

CrazyDuchess · 12/07/2016 06:30

I think he would be well within his right never to speak to you again!

What the hell was you thinking to crash his holiday???

OnionKnight · 12/07/2016 06:30

You basically crashed his holiday, if I were him I'd be ignoring you too.

Actually no I wouldn't, I'd ask you what the fuck you thought you were doing.

CinderellaRockefeller · 12/07/2016 06:32

Had you arranged it with your sister or was it a surprise to her too?

branofthemist · 12/07/2016 06:32

Jesus Christ! If my sil and mil turned up as a surprise on our holiday I would be fuming too.

I can imagine you won't need to speak to him again, as he wont be coming near you.

Finola1step · 12/07/2016 06:34

You crashed their holiday! I bet he was keeping his mouth shut because he was trying not to go ballistic.

GruffaloPants · 12/07/2016 06:35

I think you'll make his year if you decide not to speak to him. Maybe you should have decided that while you ruined his holiday.

FairNotFair · 12/07/2016 06:37

Mia1415 · 12/07/2016 06:38

I'd be fuming if someone surprised me on my holiday!!! Did your sister know?

SarahM24 · 12/07/2016 06:39

I think it was very childish to ignore you, I take it you wanted it to be a nice surprise? Did you bring gifts etc? If so then he needs to get a grip really.

Never speak to them again? Very over dramatic!

Did your sister know the plan?

KittyLaRoux · 12/07/2016 06:39

You thought it was acceptable to crash his family holiday

Apologise, explain you had good intensions but you should have asked first.

LumpySpacedPrincess · 12/07/2016 06:41

This didn't actually happen did it op.

Biscuitbrixit · 12/07/2016 06:41

I'd be so pissed off if I was on holiday with dh & dc, and the pil suprised us with coming along! Ffs! Very selfish!

WalkingZed · 12/07/2016 06:42

Maybe it's because he's a plumber and dad a dustbin man?

abitwrong123 · 12/07/2016 06:43

I wouldnt worry about it, he probably never wants to speak to you again either!

cuntinghomicidalcardigan · 12/07/2016 06:43

If I were him I'd be upset at having my family holiday crashed. I appreciate you did it with the best intentions but maybe he is actually trying to be diplomatic and not say something he'll regret?

Keep out of there way, maybe suggest meeting your sister and niece for lunch at a restaurant one day and apologise to your bil.

OnionKnight · 12/07/2016 06:43

Even if the OP took gifts with her he does not need to get a grip, she crashed his holiday! Whether she took gifts or not it doesn't make a blind bit of difference.

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Ememem84 · 12/07/2016 06:49

Agree. If mil suprised us on our holiday I'd be on the first flight home.

This is a fairly real threat for our summer holiday. Ive told Dh that this is what will happen if she turns up. He says there's no way she will. Other people (his aunts/her mates) have said how nice we are to let her come with us.

DoreenLethal · 12/07/2016 06:52

Anyway him sis & family booked a holiday so me & my mum decided to surprise them for the last week as its my nieces birthday.

I think you both need to wind your necks in. Has he had 26 years of this? I feel for him to be honest. Just let them have a holiday away from the normal day to day bollocks will you.

blueskyinmarch · 12/07/2016 06:52

I am not surprised he is not speaking to you. What on earth made you think it was okay to crash their holiday?

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