ExH and I split 7 months ago, 2DC (primary school age). He works full time, I am a student. I own my new home thanks to my dad releasing money to me following g my mums death 2 years ago. Split was instigated by me as I was unhappy. Ex and I are both in new relationships.
He pays me no maintenance. This was my decision, as at the time of the split I was feeling guilty and worried about how he would maintain his home on his own. He doesn't seem to be struggling as much as I anticipated though, and has just come back from a weekend away with his new partner. I'm not rolling in it over the summer due to no student finance, I get tax credits and CB and my lovely dad has been helping me a little financially so I can afford to treat the kids a bit.
DD has a school residential trip to be paid for. Months ago ex and I agreed we would split large costs like this, several weeks ago he said he would be able to help after payday so on the weekend I asked if he could transfer me done money got his half.
He responded by saying 'I thought your dad gave you money for her trip?'. I said no, dad gave me some money, some for my half of the trip, most went in new clothes for the kids that actually fit,and my gas bill.
This evening at handover I asked him again and he got really arsey. I pointed out that they are his kids, not my dads, and given that he pays zero maintenance it's the least he can do, socially as he's just been on holiday.
He told me he would pay something but that he wasn't paying anything to the upkeep of the house, that my financial worries are 'my problem' and that I was the one who wanted to leave so I could deal with it. His parting shot was 'and I'm not paying your fucking gas bill' at which point J got in the car and left before the urge to punch him became overwhelming.
I pay everything for the kids, all the childcare fees (£60+ a week) their activities which are over £40 a week before you add uniforms etc on top, I started from scratch in my new house because I didn't want to put him in the position of replacing things even though all the major appliances etc were bought as gifts from my parents.
AIBU to want to kill him at this moment in time?
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To be really pissed off with my ex?
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Welshmaenad · 11/07/2016 22:55
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